I am so sorry that your daughter is so ill. Hopefully some of the others on DS will respond with encouragement. In December 2000 I was diagnosed with Non-Hodgins lymphoma in stage 3 in my liver and bones.After several chemo treatments it was into remission. That would be 9 years ago. I am still in remission. I do think that you need to go into treatment with the hope and determination to get better. I will keep you both in my prayers.

I am in NH and my dad has NHL, new diagnosis. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. Have you looked into trials--like at DanaFarber in Boston--sometimes those have saved people with tough cases.

really your post made me cry...i wish if i can help ...i can understand how bad she feels. I have been diagnosed with NHL 3 months ago and I think it is not easy to accept that. tell her please to fight for her life, she must have something good on this earth that worth living for, a friend , a dream or of course a caring mother like you .

I travel to Dana-Farber as well to see a specialist in Lymphoma and absolutely love him.

Try to encourage a second opinion and pray she will find the hope & determination she needs to battle this!

I am stage 4 follicular NHL. I was diagnosed in 2003. I have been in remission for 5 years. I was given 5-15 years to live. That is really hard to hear when you are younger (or older). I was sure if I made it 5 years, I would be deathly ill and not be able to be independant. That is far from truth...and I'm past the 5 years.

I have an agreement with my doctor that when we have exhausted options, he will give me the brutal truth but I believe that is after much effort and work. I can't believe they gave her a year and she accepts that.

I would request another opinion and look at clinical trials. There are new drugs in clinical trials that are showing great promise, even for stubborn lymphoma.

One of the best medicines to help her longivity is her outlook and hope. If she gives up, her body won't have the strength to fight. I understand having to come to terms with her health issues but I would be shocked if it is time yet.

I meant to add too...I'm sorry your daughter and your family has to fight this fight. It can be a scary but my experience is that can live very very long and happy. I hope that is her experience as well.

I Hope you read this in time, but I too had 3rd stage NHL and I was sent to Barnes-Jewish hospital in St. Louis MO and my cancer was back in remission in 3 months. I did a clinical trial that has worked in the past. It was difficult, but worth it. Please don't give up. . .

sorry to hear bout your daughter, i to was diagnosed with NHLmine had spread to my bonemarrow and many other places i relapsed 3 times and i had almost given up but i had transplant and i am now almsot 2 years cancer free

I would say try to get her on this web site. She will see that she is not alone and we are fighting through it. I was just diagnosed with stage III hybrid NHL. Am I nervous? You bet! Am I going to roll over without a fight? No way. I came into this world kicking and screaming and I plan to go out that way too. It would be great to have someone on here going through the same treatments at the same time. We would each have someone to lean on. Ask her if she would do it to help me. I could sure use a friend right about now.

All great advice. Your daughter really does need to get more opinions. I went to Johns Hopkins, but continued working with my oncologist (actually fired him and moved the case to his partner - bad bedside manners). Not giving medical advice, but there are a lot of people making it through to the "other side" with this, and having long periods of remission.

You should really try to get her onto this group, and www.lymphomasurvival.com . She needs to be in contact with others that she "will listen to". There are things that I will accept from a brother/sister in this, that I will not accept from someone who is not in the club. She needs to know as was just said, we're going to do this kickin' and screamin', but not lying down.

Oh my - so difficult for you. I feel your anxiety for your daughter. My youngest son was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 disorder in Feb 2010 and I went through a year of total devestation with him. He was so suicidal but now, with love and dedication that only us parents can know he is doing much better. I was diagnosed with Lymphoma in Jan 2011. Hectic time. But now I am in remission!
May I suggest that your daughter take DaveVA's advice and join the Lymphoma site on his comment. Even if you have to join the site yourself and email her the info. She will benefit from thousands of people in her situation. She is not alone.
Please tell her that there are very concerned supportive people on this site who will help and guide her. Tell her that Lymphoma is not the end of the world and that it is most treatable and that the chances are that she will live a long and productive life.
Tell her also that there are younger members on this site who are postive and dealing with their situations- they will support her!
With you....

I'm 72 and have accomplished the vast majority of anything I could have planned for myself when I was 23. (Heck, at 23, I just needed to track the price for a case of beer.)

Even now, I am intensely interested in the successful outcome of my treatment and optimistic about its chances for me, estimated at 60% cure.

I'm an engineer by profession, not a mental health professional but it sounds like your daughter need the support of a counselor. 23 is the wrong age to have such a fatalistic attitude.

If you can speak to her doctor, that might get the ball rolling. Medical privacy laws are a stumbling block to you at every turn.

Good luck.

I am really sorry to hear about your daughter. Sometimes the medical field can be a pretty cold place. I was diagnosed with NHL in March 2003, stage 4. My whole abdomen was full of tumors and my right kidney was going into failure. I was shocked, but did not start therapy right away. I had to give it some thought. I immediately went on an organic Plant Strong diet, eliminating all animal protein and refined sugar and gave up eating in restaurants. Since my wife is a licensed acupuncturist that practices TCM, I got acupuncture and herbs. Two months after my diagnosis, I decided against chemo therapy and opted for one round of Rituximab. Over the next few years my tumors disappeared. I currently have a small superficial tumor on the right side of my head, near my ear. I can say that the change in my lifestyle empowered me and was a large factor in getting through my crisis. To this day, I remain vegan, stay away from sugar and restaurants. Maybe if your daughter could feel empowered it could lift her out of her depression. I recommend reading the books written by Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now and Stillness Speaks. It helped me immensely. Don't ever give up! Life is a gift.

I know this was 7 years ago and you probably do not even go on here anymore, How are you and how is your daughter?