NUMBNESS AND SENSATION ISSUES ARE VERY ANNOYING. TRY LOTS OF FOREPLAY, TALKING DIRTY TO ONE ANOTHER, AND TOYS ARE MOST HELPFUL. TOYS WITH CLITORAL STIMULATION ARE VERY HELPFUL. JUST DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU ARE ENJOY. EMMIE HAD A VERY GOOD IDEA IN ANOTHER POST. GET THE MUSIC AND MOOD GOING THAN TALK AND EXPLORE EVERY INCH OF ONE ANOTHERS BODIES. HOPE THAT HELPS YA. GOOD LUCK, TAMMY

MY LAST FLARE UP DEVIDED MY BODY IN HALF. STRAIGHT DOWN THRU MY VAGINA. I WAS MARRIED 6 WEEKS. ONE FELT GOOD TO BE TOUCHED AND THE OTHER SIDE FELT IRRETATED.WHEN YOUR SYSTEM CALMS DOWN IT'LL WILL FEEL BETTER. IN THE MEANTIME, YOUR MATE MUST UNDERSTAND AND BE PATIENT. PRETENDING DOESN'T FIX ANYTHING.

Thank you for the advice. I guess it is time to try something new. Thanks again I really appreciate your advice.

what's that??? lol. Actually I am not having a problem with it, however I do have a problem even wanting to have sex. Too tired. My poor husband.

Also, if you are on any antidepressant medications this will decrease your ability to climax. Some will not even allow a climax so it depends on the medications also.

One add-on to this advice..........watch too much clitoral stimulation.........i actually find it makes my sensation decrease........too much stimulation actually creates a numbing effect........GOOD LUCK......and don't give up :)

OK I too had this problem for a while. I found 2 things helped, 1-getting rid of the stressors in my life, and 2-waiting a bit between. I know most people don't like #2, does seem to help. But, if you have lost feeling, this is something to bring up to your doc. It took me a long time to convince my hubby that is was my illness and NOT HIM! I think he's finally got it! Best wishes!

I'm glad you brought this up. I have had this problem for the last year or so. I was to embarrased to tell the neuro or reg md, so I'm glad to know it wasn't just me. It was constant for about 6mo and now it's still there just not as severe (just like everything else that I've lost feeling it, it never REALLY comes back). Thanks for starting this topic.

sometimes set the mood, play and foreplay.
massages, take showers and bathes togetherand don't forget victoria secret. low lights, soft music. Prepare your heart and mind for sex, like we did before the days of MS. most of all relax and relax. Try different positions. and not in
bedroom all the time. Relax and relax.

the 18 only stores.....heh heh heh...lots of toys there...grin... and lotions...etc...just stay away from the ones that warm up...oh yeah they are a bad bad idea...lol

hugs
heather

If your husband is good at oral sex then try this...
him: kneeling at the edge of the bed
you: bring your butt down to the edge of the bed, naked of course...draw your knees up or let them hang to either side...whatever is most comfortable.
him: he should then pull the lips apart and very slowly approach your area with his tongue stretched out. have him very gently lick the inner side of the lips. if done right it will send shivers up and down your spine, also if it starts to feel great have him go circular.
also I personally reccomend long sweeping tongue motion...where he drags the tongue from the bottom, around the anus and licks straight to the tip of your clitoris.
I know this is vivid but trust me its worth it. Maybe it will help...just remember its about the senses, not the action. My boyfriend has kissed me on my neck before and I swear to you...I had an orgasm from that simple act...anyting if done right and with caring can bring the body to climax... all the best, em

Luvmekk,
Oh yes, i was on anit-depressant medication for a long time but I have been off and I of course thought it would come back as easily as before and it didn't. I really think certain medications and so on can aid in difficulties in these areas, but I also think it has to do with being a woman. I believe it was in People or InTouch magazine a couple weeks ago that the OBGYN wrote on this subject, and she said that 90% of woman have difficulties climaxing though sexual intercourse but that the majority of them can do it to themselves on their own. I thought that was an interesting piece of information! So after that I decided I was finally normal! LoL! Anyhoo, I have found that being honest with the old hubby is the best bet. I finally just told him, "hey whatever worked before throw it out the window because its not working anymore and I can't explain why." So we took a trip to the sex shop and got one of those small egg vibrators. (or u can order online at shop's like www.adamevetoys.com and it will come in a discrete box) They have different levels of vibrations and you can start with a low level and see how it goes. I haven't notice that it has effected my sensitivity. Good luck!
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Thank God that my husband is very understanding. I get so dry that I don't want to make love because it is painful, very. I read in one of the MS books from the Dr's office,try ky jelly or any type of lubricant. I have not yet, but when I get over this exacerbation, may I will try it.

I have the same problem and it can be VERY frustrating! At a MS conferance this question was asked and the Dr told us that if you take a bag of frozen peas and place it over you privates for a few seconds that it will bring sensitivity back to that area. It sounds strange but it helps. Never seems to be the same but it does help. GOOD LUCK! :)