Oh, no, I am so sorry. This is just the worst thing.

I would say that many times it is just hard for tohrs to discuss it, so if it doesn't come up, maybe just leave it. It embarrasses other people to talk about some things, alot of people do not talk about bodily functions and the control or lack of control of them until they are quite old.

And it is hard sometimes for people to figure the right thing to say..."I'm sorry you peed yoursefl?" People really don't always want to start the conversation because they are not sure where it will go.

Don't apologize, you didn't do anything wrong. I tend to figure it out as needed, but my rule usually is that if nobody says anything abbout an MS thing that happens, I just smile nad do the best I can to act like everything is very normal. I just hate when people get all upset for me.

I don't know, you have to do what is going to help you feel comfortable with an unconfortable situation. But I really just wanted to say from someone who has been there, all the way down to the wet socks, I am really sorry. It sucks.

Yes indeed...been there...done that...

MS Sucks

Attitude is Everything

I know out of anyone she would be the person to get it. If I just email her and say this is what happened and this is why it happened. I wanted to tell you so you know whats up, it will not last. Please don't bring it up, but I will be ok, and I just need to figure out how this MS thing works.

I don't know, should I just let her think that I peed myself? Or should I let her know that it is because of MS? She is the most considerate person I have ever known and I just don't know how to handle the situation.

Damn you MS, why can't tampons work for pee?

It can be very embarrassing....believe me I know! I think if it is going to make you feel better by explaining the way MS sometimes works then tell her. I am the type to say something for sure, but then again sometimes I say too much.

That's why I don't drink beer, it goes right through me. I love my Red Wine! :)

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Dr. Seuss

I get the feeling you kind of want to say something, if this is someone who you think won't connect it to MS and you just want that to be clear, I would email and say that and say that you are still finding your way with many aspects of MS and thank her for being such a good friend as you feel comfortable telling her this.

I know, right, on the tampons. The list is long on why pads are horrible, but this is an example of why they are sometimes lifesavers. Just a thought.

I'm so sorry this happened to you - been there. I'd explain it, but if it were me, I'd downplay it like it was just a little leak and you weren't sure if she noticed, but in case she did...MS etc. - that's just me, but somehow it might help to keep it light that way. And if she did notice, she'll be glad to know that you actually realized that it happened ; )

This isn't something to e-mail a friend over. I think in person, or on the phone would be better.

If we want people to understand, and accept us with our 'issues' we have to set the bar and accept ourselves.

Part of that is wearing pads or other under garments to handle the problem. This we do out of respect for ourselves, and for others who will be riding that bus, sitting in the same seat after you. Is it far to want people to accept us, and to leave pee for them to sit in?

You don't need to go in great detail with your friend. Nobody wants to listen to great detail anyway. Just tell her bladder issues can be a problem with MS, and you had not realized yours would be a problem after drinking alcohol. Tell her your sorry, and will take steps to not let it happen again. Then laugh, after all, no sense getting all down over something that isn't your fault.

After your chat, suggest you two go out again. Tell her you'll prepare better in the future.

There's no reason to have guilt, or shame because you're having bladder issues. The only thing to feel guilty about was not being better prepared. You can be next time, so no big deal at all!

You still have a life to live, no sense in not. MS doesn't have to limit us, we may have to go about things a bit different. Strive to do all you can, for as long as you can! Don't let the fear of what MIGHT happen, limit you or keep you doing all you can!

Don't worry, every human has done something that has embarressed them. Most of us will do something else. That's just part of being alive.

Good luck to you! Have faith in yourself!

I was dx in March 2008 and peed myself for a few months in the first year of my dx with MS. I just put a pose pad on and went on with life. I was ashamed, dont get wrong, age 39 and peeing myself.
Go see your GP right away because it does not get better.

Good luck with that Smathie

Over the weekend I decided to drink 4 beers to see how it would effect me. I have a highschool reunion to go to and want to drink but now know I can't. I was fine for 2 1/2 beers than I peed 1x and that is all she wrote--every 5 minutes I was making my way to the bathroom. I was told be sure you have food in your stomach and liquor doesn't effect a person as much. But I decided it is not worth the risk of waiting in line at a party. With your friend...you can tell her but do you think she cares that you did that? She knows you have MS and probably can figure it out. I doubt she will go and tell people, so next time you go out with her make light of the topic. Probably if you peed in her car she wouldn't be happy but you didn't so all is good. Give yourself 15 minutes to dwell on it and then let it go and say *uck it. You are not alone.

Wow, Punky, good research. Nice to know ahead of the time, which is rare with MS. As to the food, well, it may cause he alcohol to go to your head less, but that is not the problem, LOL.

Hey, it's happened to lots of others, me included. Just say something, say it's a symptom, and leave it t that. Watch out for the beer tho! :)

What? Hi I am new to this site and so far I love it. I am sorry for your accident. When I read it i almost started to cry. Is that what I have to look forward to? I have to pee often when I drink alcohol or water. thats all I drink, but mainly water.

No worries love muffin, we all here have done it at some point or we will at some point. Most likely you peed yourself because of a bladder infection.. A bladder infection with MS is different. It doesnt feel like a normal one. Ive noticed that mine are completely symptom free except for foggy pee and smelly pee. When I had a accident my doctor explained to me that is was because I had a dozey of a infection and didnt even know it. I do suggest getting some pee pads though. They are just like a period pad and nobody will know that you have one on. It will give you the mental relief knowing that you have a tinkle guard.

As far as your friend goes, there is nothing wrong with emailing her if that makes you more comfortable. It may make it more comfortable for her as well so she doesnt have to feel the need to hide her reaction. Which will probably be a "im sorry reaction" It happens and sucks but try not to let it get you down. Get checked for a UTI though and I can almost bet that is why it happend.. Good Luck

I had this happen many times & it is embarrasiing at the time. most other people dont even realise that you did it though. If you want to tell your friend i would do like one of the others said & either phone or say something next time you see her & it is appropriate. I would make it light & a short comment like ' dont know if you noticed but I had an accidenlast time we were out & p'd myself. Another part of ms but I am prepares now so it wont catch me again" then go on with normal conversation.
There is a range of pads you can wear for bladder leak & some can be very thin "pantyliners" well worth the peace of mind in wearing them.
Dont stress about it, do get checked if it happens more often incase of bladder infection or nerve issue & mabe some tablets might help.

you know your friend best, and if she is one of the most considerate person's you know, she will understand. I'm sorry this happened, and hope that you will now agree to wear pads or something to avoid this situation in the future. MS is a hard disease to accept, and along with it all the "acrudiments" Good Luck.