Hi Irish,

First of all BREATHE....TAKE SOME DEEP BREATHS SLOWLY.

Ok, you need to get professional help from an attorny dear. As far as my experiences with attorney's the initial consultation is free. They can help you decide if you are in a position for a lawsuit.

I hope you find good advice from them and you can relax and let someone else do all the worrying for you. You just don't need this added stress right now dear.

You do have friends here that you can depend on for help.

Gentle Hugs, and love

Kath

Thank you sweet Kath!

I am so nervous about it all. I suppose I will call an attorney on Monday. It is so scary though. I cant sleep and am irritable with my family. I cry alot also. I feel so useless right now. I keep thinking that I am probably some kinda psychosomatic type of person. They will do all these tests and find absolutely nothing. Everything is freaking me out right now and you guys are the only ones who "get it". Thank you so much for your advice. LYL....Tamye

Tamye, I cant speak for everyone but I suspect well all go through this at some point. When my pcp said he suspected MS I was actually calm for weeks about it. I researched and researched and then researched some more. I wanted to learn all I could about this disease. I have NO insurance at all and Im not in a position where I can get any, so I started researching programs that help with meds and made contact with our state academic hospital. I had a meltdown just like you are having now. I had no idea how I was going to afford care if I was diagnosed with MS not to mention the stress of not knowing how my life would change. I prayed a lot (Im not a religious person, but I am a very spiritual one) and I spent a great deal of time telling myself to just breath. A little more research and lots of paperwork later, I was approved for 100% discount on services at the academic hospital, minus a small co-pay. My $8,000.00 MRI in December cost me $25.00. Although this program only covers specialist, test and hospital stays I feel VERY blessed to have it. I have not been diagnosed with anything as of yet, but I now know if I am there are ways to get help.

As far as the lawsuit goes I have no advice there. Ive never sued anyone and Im sure there is a great deal of factors to consider before you do. As Kath suggested see a good lawyer about this one.

Take a deep breath and know that God will not give you more than you can handle. Say a little prayer asking your guides to give you peace and guidance and then relax and listen. It will all work out ok. No matter what the diagnosis is. A positive attitude will bring so much good your way!

(((((hugs)))))
Lisa

Kath and Lisa provided you some excellent suggestions. I cannot offer any more, but I do send my warm regards. I understand your pain. Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how it's meant to be.

Hi Lisa and Ichoppel,

Thanks for your replies. Lisa I really appreciate the info on the resources for the academic hospital. We do have some academic hospitals around here and it is well worth it to try and see if they might be able to offer any assistance.

To both Lisa and Ichoppel...I have done nothing but pray to God. All my life I have been a very spiritual person. Weeny to a Catholic school where I was made fun of for years. Not just by students but by teachers as week. My life has been very hard and I am not some preppy middle income person saying that. My mom and I were so poor after her and my dad divorced when I was 41/2 that I eventually become very anemic...pills and iron shots every week. Life has always been a very hard run uphill for me.I get so far up that rocky mountain and I lose my footing and if not fall all the way down then I consider myself real lucky if I only fall partway.

I guess I must be screwing up my friendship with everyone here as well. All I wanted was friends who could understand me and I guess thats pretty stupid when I think about it. After all you guys don't know me at all. Why should I expect yall to understand. After all like I said I pray so much..so much and my life has never stopped being bad. all I want is a small modicum of happiness and I can't seen to find anyone anywhere who gives A damn enough to try and help me find happiness. Sorry about that. Irish

Hey! Just because we all don't know eachother well, doesn't me we don't understand what we (you) are going through. I can't offer any more or better advice except for I feel ya sister! I'll keep you in my thoughts!

BIG Smiles!

Jamie :D

Lots of good advice for the medical costs.

My advice comes more about the group of friends. Look in the phone book for your local MS Society. They may know of support groups that meet. Face to face contact with others that understand is important as well as you online friends.

Good luck and hugs to you.

Darla

"I guess I must be screwing up my friendship with everyone here as well. All I wanted was friends who could understand me and I guess thats pretty stupid when I think about it. After all you guys don't know me at all. Why should I expect yall to understand. "

WOAH Tamye! Slow down. You ARE NOT SCREWING UP any friendships that I'm aware of! We try our best to understand and well we don't all know each other well, I like to think that what we lack in understanding we make up for in compassion. We CARE about you, even if we don't understand the width and bredth of your situation.

As for the rest... I don't know much about lawsuits. I don't know much about how a head injury would interact with MS (except to assume it would certainly not help anything!). What I do know is that there are experts that can help you. Make sure if you do go forward you pick a lawyer who only gets paid IF you win the case or settle - that way you can only profit from the attempt.

As for the medical stuff.. I've read many of your posts talking about your head injuries. Very concerning stuff there. I think one of the biggest concerns is that MS and head trauma can act very similarly, so I'm sure it's a struggle to make headway on a dx. But like many here mentioned, there are many programs out there to help. Call around and see what you can find. Call the National MS Society, they can give you tips and resources to help you work through this.

Above all, remember that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We may all be a great distance away, and we may know not the ins and outs of your situation, but we are here for you and we care about you.

Lots of hugs - Shelley

Do not know how to go back to old posts on DS.
Can anybody tell me how?

Lorna

I am having same problem but son lives with me. No friends and you do need them

I can't add anything to the other, & other than talking with a lawyer I'm not sure what to do about the legal part of it, but I did want to say that I think that TBI's or Head injuries do have an increased chance of developing MS! I do believe that it puts you at a higher risk of developing it! I believe that in MY CASE.... that my TBI--esp.... in my case because I never received care for mine--I was not kept in the hospital, nor did I receive any of the medical treatment or PT,OT, or ST that I was supposed to get!

I went w/o treatment--was supposed to be in the hospital for 6 months! 3 at the least! My entire rib cage was ripped apart!!! I had no perhiphial vision!!! And, had amneasia!!! And, I couldn't walk or do anything!!! I thought I was parallized!!! Thought that for a long time! My neck was totally F-ed up!!! And, I had no control over my neck or head!!! And, the ER doc sent me home like that!!! Told my mom that I got what I deserved!!!! And, to take me home!!! And, she did!!! After socking it to him!!!

I wanted to hit him & punch his lights out!!! But I couldn't!!!

I had to lay flat of my back at home, which was now strange to me because I had amnesia & stair at the ceiling wondering if I was parallized, blind, or would ever remember shit again!!! And, wonding what the bloody hell was wrong with me & if I'd ever be better or ever walk again!!!???? And, wondering what the hell I'd do if none of that ever happened!!!!

I'd still like to mow his GD ass down in the parking lot!!!!!!! I'd love to give him the life that he gave me!!!!! No jobs!!!! I lost my body! My brain! My car! My job! My career!!! My apartment!!!! My family!!! Memories! And, basically!? MY LIFE!!!!!!

AND, THAT BLANK IS RICH AS HELL, DRIVING HIS F-IN MERCEDEES, WITH GOOD INCOME!!!! GOOD HEALTHCARE!!!!!!!! AND, DAMNED GOOD RETIREMENT! AND, A REAL NICE HOUSE!!! WHILE I'M STUCK LIVING OFF OF 718 A MONTH & NOW THIS MS???? SHIT ON TOP OF THAT!!!!!

HAD ALL OF THAT & THEN DEVELOPED PCS BECAUSE OF IT!!!!!! AND, NOW MS!!!!! NOT A DEFINATE DX YET EITHER!!!! BUT I HAVE A TEXT BOOK CASE & 5 DOCTORS & A BEST FRIEND WHO WORKS IN HEALTHCARE & HOW WAS MY PT--ALL SAYING IT!!!!

AND, DEEP DOWN, IT'S JUST SOMETHING THAT YOU JUST KNOW!!!! AND I THINK THAT THE WHOLE MS HEAT THING IS A QUINCER!!!! I MEAN HOW MANY OTHER DISEASES DO YOU HAVE THE TEXTBOOK MS HEAT WITH!?

AND, I HAVE ALL THE SIGNS & SYMPTOMS & IT ACTS EXACTLY LIKE RRMS!!!! AND, NOW IT'S GOING INTO ONE OF THE OTHERS!!! THE ATTACKS ARE GETTING CLOSER TOGETHER & ARE BECOMING MORE SEVERE & HAPPENING WAY MORE OFTEN!!!

AND, I'M NO DOCTOR EITHER BUT I FIRMLY BELIEVE THAT THAT CAUSED MY MS!!!! I CAN'T PROVE IT!!! NEVER WILL BE ABLE TO PROVE IT I GUESS!? BUT NOBODY WILL EVER CONVINCE ME THAT THE TWO ARE NOT CONNECTED!!!! I FIRMLY BELIEVE THAT THAT WENT INTO MS & THAT THAT IS THE CAUSE OF WHAT IS GOING ON WITH ME NOW!!!

JUST ALL THAT DAMAGE TO MY BRAIN, NECK, SPINE, & BODY!!! ALL THAT DAMAGE & LEFT UNTREATED TOO HAD TO HAVE A LONG TERM IMPACT ON MY BODY, BRAIN, NECK, SPINE, ETC.....

Half my face & one side of my head was twice the size!!! And, the other half was triple the size!!!! There was massive massive swelling in my head/brain, spine! And, I believe that I will continue to pay the price for as long as I live!!! Which won't be long now--if there's a God!!!

Because I'm done!!! I'm over it!!! I'm ready to go right now!!!

So I do totally get what your saying here!!! And, if you can sue!!!???? GO FOR IT I SAY!!! CAUSE LIFE FOR ME WITH NO MONEY & NOBODY, & NO SHIT IN MY LIFE & NO LIFE HAS BEEN FREAKING MISERABLE!!!! AND, I WISH THAT I'D DIED RIGHT THEN!!!! AND, WOULD IF I COULD EVER GO BACK!

But since I can't I guess I will just have to die now!?

Sorry!!!!!! Bad week!!!!!! Can't take no more! Again!!! Sorry!!!!!!!