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Dating...when to tell?

ilotusflower
ilotusflower
So I have a question for u all...I have met someone and I am hoping something will come out of it. But...when is it the right time to tell them about "our little friend"?? We have only gone out on a few dates (no sleep overs...Yet) But I am feeling that is a man I would really like to open up to. Yet...dont want to scare him and yet dont want him to feel as if he has been mislead. I guess when the time is right I will know...But any advice??

Thanks Always!!!
Summoning
Summoning
Personally...I think you should wait a bit more before telling him. The more you know about him. Meaning is he the type that could handle such news? Some guys are asses and wouldnt want to date someone with MS, but there are many that would not care.
If you really like this guy, make sure he really likes you too before telling him
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have told two men and they still want to date me. I guess I want to know what they are made of.
deleted_user
deleted_user
With this I find it to be situational. Overall, I usually try and just drop the news quick and easy, before I really even know if I'm interested, that way nothing's lost.

Maybe not the best way to do it, but I hate the idea of investing effort into something that won't work due to my MS. I honestly haven't found a single guy scared away by it. But I do judge a guy pretty quick by how he responds.
alitax86
alitax86
Although I look healthy, the various equipment I use such as mobility devices are hard to miss. I could hide the disease if one did not come to my home or not in the middle of a relapse. For my part, I like to inform sooner rather than later. Perhaps after 4 or 5 dates. You want to get to know a person to some extent, yet you do not want them to believe they have been led along. For me, I have not dated in a while. I am very busy with my health routine. Fatigue prevents me from doing more. Perhaps next year. Good luck to you.