Multiple Sclerosis (MS) Support Group
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Does anyone here have experience with fighting child custody and have your MS used against you? My fiance and I are having some trouble lately and while things aren't nasty(yet), he says that if we split he is going to try for primary physical custody of our daughter beacuse of my disease. Have any of you had to defend your MS in court. I like to think that I can't be discriminated against because of it, but when he says things like " sometimes you can't walk how can you take care of Bralyn alone?" it scares me that a judge might buy into that BS. While I know I have a support system and a telephone my daughter (she is 5) would not be in any danger if my legs went numb. It really scares me sometimes and I feel a little trapped by him with these comments. I am depressed enough right now I can't handle the thought of living without my baby so I will just stay here probably no matter how bad it gets between him and I... Just wondering if anyone has any insight into this. Thanks!
Best wishes,
EP
You might also want to consider asking about the specific guidelines on what can and cannot constitute an argument against the "fitness" of a parent in terms of a disability. This would be an important part of what you need to know, and would need to prepare for should this ever go to court.
Another thing that might be of importance is whether your fiance knew that you had MS at the time that you got pregnant or by the time you gave birth, and what changes have taken place with your MS since then.
Please do look in to this. If you are not happy and this is not a good situation, it will not be for your daughter or you or your MS. You should know your options and form your opinions not out of fear of losing your daughter, but really because you feel it is the best thing for both of you.
Good Luck and be well.
My parents divorced about 3 years after his stroke. He had returned to work full time at that point, but still had, and continues to have issues over 15 years later.
My father was never deemed unfit at any point. We were 12, 10, and 6 at the time. He had a strong support system and always had someone to help.
My mom never tried to deny my father from seeing us. She did whatever was in the best interest for her children. It was hard for her but she stayed friends with my dad so she could keep a united force to keep her kids in line lol.
The courts will try to do whatever is best for your daughter, and having her mother in the picture is the best thing for her.
Your local court house should have a list of legal aid available to assist you.
Hugs.
In your case if at times your legs do go numb and cant walk, there is wheel chairs, etc. There is nothing that I would see stopping you from being a good parent.
You have nothing to worry about, your fiance is just talking out of his a$$, he does not know that he will get primary custody.
I understand your fear of loosing your child.
Talk to a lawyer, its free the first time *hugs* I wish you all the best
Start documenting everything- how he treats his daughter (that includes using her as a threat and how he treats you in front of her), keep a daily journal of your activities with her and then find a good lawyer-
My mother rarely walked when I was a child-we were also very poor-but she was a beautiful woman and I a blessed child
Good luck