A couple of things that might help

Get your eyelashes dyed every month or so. It makes it look like you have dark gorgeous lashes. Then get some kind of eye brightening eye shadow that you just need to swipe across your eye lids.

Buy some blush and lip gloss. Rosy cheeks & lips make everyone look more feminine and healthy and you dont need a steady hand to apply either of them. This is pretty much my makeup routine and it takes me less than a minute in the morning.

About the hairyou might want to look into a different cut. Something easier to style or just more of a wash and wear style. Sometimes a few highlights or bangs can make a simple ponytail look very polished. I have long hair and when I am not feeling well I always wash my hair at night so I dont have to blow dry. If I put it up in a bun I get waves that look like I spent an hour going over my hair with a curling iron.

A few other thingsfind out what colors look good on you and stick with them. I kind of have a uniform so I dont have to think too much about getting dressed. I know I look great in a pair of jeans, flats, a black boat neck top and some kind of bold colorful accessory.

A lady I work with swears that she gets depressed if she doesnt have her nails painted a bright colorI dont know if I buy it but it is nice to have pretty nails. I do find that I feel better when I look better, and oddly enough I get taken more seriously at the doctors office.

I totally understand...I am a working plus size mom with 2 beautiful girls...I didnt have much time before but now I feel so unmotivated.

But I do spruce myself once in a while... a sexy low cut shirt- bare minerals make-up- lip gloss & eye make up. I need to feel like a woman.. I dont wear heels to work in the office anymore but if I am going out with my husband. I will wear them for a few hrs.

Its all in my state of mind. I did get my hair cut in a wash & wear style and lip gloss every day.

My change of style happened when I changed jobs. Although I still work in an office, I'm in a very relaxed one and we wear jeans to work. There are only a few girls and some of them always look glam, even in jeans. I'm afraid I love my sneakers, but rather than white one, I looked for a few pairs of different colours (without spending too much). Having got the slobbing out of my system, I do try to make more of an effort now. One of my colleagues always looks pretty and one of the factors is that despite a relatively simple top, she always has a lovely necklace on. Not some fiddly thing that you can find the clasp on, but a chunky long necklace that just needs to slip over your head.
I think it's partly in your head and partly in the clothes you choose. I don't mean whether you choose heels or flats. I have one pair of jeans that are a little too long, sit low on the waist, baggy to the point I can only just tell I have toes. They're ultra comfy. Another pair that are fitted with a cut that suits me. A pretty top and it still looks good with flip flops.
I love to get dressed up now because I don't do so for work. Not often, but just when we go to meet friends, I feel great in a skirt and (small) heels.
Try clothes from somewhere like www.joules.com - they're not the cheapest, but look so feminine and wear extremely well so they'll last years.
As for make-up, I'm with the suggestions above. Find something simple that suits you. One colour for eyes at a time, a lip gloss and (if you can manage it) some mascara, and you'll feel completely different. Perhaps a moisturiser that contains a tint of colour might make the routine easier? Saves applying foundation.

The distaff perspective is overdue. Thankfully I am not weighted down by any societal expectation to look a certain way. I can't wear jewelery of any kind, not even a watch. I only wear shoes outside of the house, and then only running shoes. The very thought of a necktie sends shudders down my spine.

In my previous life, before dx, I dressed up when the occasion warranted. But since dx, I absolutely must dress for comfort. I never had the need for, nor the luxury of, the need to maintain appearances. Since The MonSter has entered my life, that has been a blessing. Along the same lines, my masculinity has been in no way effected by the disease. If I cannot do something (or it would be the height of folly to attempt it), I simply won't try. Falling flat on one's face is decidedly worse than sitting on the sidelines.

Basically it boils down to self-image. My strengths lie in areas having nothing whatsoever to do with appearances. And that has always been a major component of my life, long before beset upon by The MonSter. Oh yeah, one last thing, I still have NEVER in my life paid to have a brake job done on my car ! The difference is that these days it takes two days instead of two hours.

oh yeah, me too! buy some nice flat shoes & some comfortable clothes are actually fashionable...kinda sort of. really I',m 51, I've had to get used to not being so great looking.. do the best you can and the hell with anyone who complains!

It is VERY hard some days to even shower. But, I know that getting dressed, even though I am home alone most of the day, does make me feel better. You don't have to put on a lot of make up, just putting on lipstick makes me feel better. Oh, put on fire engine red lipstick and it will brighten your face!!!. I am attaching a quote from the beautiful Audrey Hepburn:

For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
-- Audrey Hepburn