I hear ya sista. Ive been like this for awhile. Some things that I have done and are in the process of doing is buying new clothes. Ofcourse I must shop online. Im all about Lerner New York and Old Navy. I switched make up to bare essentials. Bare minimum is a little on the pricey side so I went for the Laurel brand from target. Its just a powder foundation that is super easy to apply and it doesnt make you sweat. It covers great and takes 2 minutes, I have the eye powder for fine lines and dark circles then the actual foundation. As far as mascara goes and tremors, I dont have that problem so Im sorry that I cant help with that one. Im getting my hair done on Saturday and Ive decided to go for a very short A line with a blonde dye. It will be super cool, cute and easy to do. I am one who lives in baseball caps and pony tails. Then because I am married and I still like to make my hubby happy. For fun I bought pink girlie panties and satin black nighties that match my pink and black walker. Ive also just ordered a black cane with pink rinestones... SO as tired and tore up that I may feel I will still walk around the house in a satin nighty on any given afternoon. I have found that this makes me feel really good about myself as well. Now if I can just get in the "mood" all would be right in the world...lol Good luck to you... :)

Oh and go get a pedi... Relax in the chair and let them girlie fye your feeties... Even though my feet are numb, I always feel good to have pretty feet. It makes being barefoot fun.

I know what you mean. I have just got a couple of nice shirts/tops that I can wear with either jeans or nice pants when we go out. That way it doesnt matter about my shoes whihc are always the orthotics as i have orthotics on both legs (up to just below the knees) to help me walk.
When we are going out I do it in stages. For instance, I get dressed, then sit down & have a coffee/tea rest, then I go & put on earrings etc. I havent worried about makeup for years as my skin is so sensitive its not worth it but occasionaly I put a bit of colour on etc. I do this when I do earrings & I do it in the bathroom leaning on the basin.
It takes a lot longer to get ready but if I do it in stages then I can rest between so can go out. I also aim to be ready about 30 minutes before we are going out, again giving me time for a rest/relax before we go.
Cant help with the make up side of things but that is how I manage the fatigue & getting ready to go out.
Dont let it stop you going out.

I don't know if you have the body shop where you live, but if you call and make an appointment, they will do your makeup for a $5 donation. Every time my sister comes to visit me, I take her there to get her makeup done. It's cheap and they're really good.

I never blow dry my hair, but I have found I can use my hair straightener to straighten my hair and that gives me about 3 more days without having to wash or style my hair.

I feel your pain. I too worked at home for 15 years and found myself on the steady decline both with make up and hair and clothing. Normal clothing for me is sweat pants and sweatshirt in the winter (no undies) and in the summer over sized T's and boxer shorts. Minimal make up if any and my hair in a pony tail. Gross I know. I have been trying to change it up but I honestly don't feel good in anything. I have bought on line like Nahlie from J.Jill and now have 2 new outfits to go to the store in when i go with my husband but that is it. I wear tennis shoes or flip flops (what I can keep on my feet while walking). My husband, I am sure, is disgusted with me but I just don't have the want to do anything more. I need an attitude adjustment and to feel better! So you are not alone. If you come up with a plan please post as I could sure use a "make over". Good luck to both of us!

I FEEL TOTALLY ROBBED BY M.S. I ALSO WANNA WEAR HEALS & FORM FITTING DRESSES SADDLY WHEN I TRY TO GET "DLLED UP I FEEL LIKE A CROSS DRESSING MAN?" I HAVE NO REAL ISSUES W/ WALKING OTHER THAN I FEEL MORE AT EASE WEARING JEANS & SOME GYM SHOES? I HAVE NEVER REALLY BEEN ABLE TO STRAIGHTEN MY OWN HAIR. FOR AWHILE IN MY LIFE I WORE MY HAIR DOWN W/ MY NATURAL WAVES, BUT NOW THE PONY TAIL IS MY HAIR DO. I HATE IT I WANNA WERE EYELINER BUT MY EYES WATER SO MUCH ALLERGIC TO MY OWN DOG? ONLY THE RIGHT WATERS? I ALWAYS BUY PRETTY DRESSES IN HOPES OF DONNING IT BUT SADLY I NEVER DO. YOU CANNOT WEAR A DRESS W/ GYM SHOES!!!? MY 10 YEAR OLD WOULD DISAGREE BUT THAT'S NOT THE LOOK I'M GOING FOR?

Well, I never liked heels. Sneakers have always been my shoe of choice. But I have to admit, I got tired of looking in the mirror and seeing all the grey. It made me feel old with the walking issues. Since the walking issues can't be taken care for $60.00 I got my hair dyed. You know, I do feel better. Next I guess a pedi.
A friend and fellow MSer is a shoe girl. Looking at all her shoes was really upsetting her. Her hubby, one day, removed all the girly shoes while she was at work and replaced them with her new shoes and other things. She felt much better not having that constant visual reminder.
Be Well. Be Strong and rest!
Miki

I gave up "pretty" shoes 15 yrs ago. Too wobly and my feet were always cold. For dress up, I stick to some nice earrings and some lipstick. I don't like anything on my face or want to have to wash it off later.

I had a wake-up call from my daughter a few years ago... she was helping me weed out my closet before going out shopping, and she started to cry and said that I was 'just making do', when before (when I was working) I had always looked elegant and made an effort every day. It was a shock to me, but then I remembered what my Dad taught me many years ago. I was suffering my first bout of depression, and he said that in order to feel better, I should always take care of myself, (shower, hair, teeth, etc), and then the more depressed I was, the better dressed I should be. That helped me feel better - the old "It's not how you feel, it's how you look, and you look mahvellous!' I too have had to mostly wear ugly shoes for over 30 years, but was able to find one pair of shoes, sort of like pumps that weren't too sickening, that I wear to special events. i wear long skirts that hide the ugly shoes, and try to always wear earrings, or necklace (although having trouble putting them on/in some days). I also make sure that I have a good haircut that doesn't require blowing etc, just a little mousse. And I haven't worn makeup in years - I yam what I yam... I wear fancy glasses to hide the fact I don't put on makeup - sensitivity issues of course, allergic to almost everything on my face! So please try for yourself to dress up! And try some long skirts - make you still feel like a lady. My thoughts are with you.

i buy all my clothes at consignment shops and i get the best complements on my wardrobe. i have a HUGE wardrobe and i do mean huge i can go at least 2 months without wearing the same outfit twice not kidding . and i have i have at least 30 pairs of shoes no heels all ms coodinated shoes and my clothes are all ms compatible no buttons. they are very nice and cheap and consignment shops r everywhere nowadays. and if u become a frequent shopper like i am the ladies shop for me i call tell what im looking for and what i want to spend and i send my aide and they have it ready for her and 95% ive loved it only once and that was cuz i dont like bootlegged jeans or pants. but i love dresses and skirts and being short and tiny im easy to dress so i love te dress nice so consignment shops r the way to go for me. try it u might like it . my dad came to visit me and he bought me like 10 shirts and 2 dresses for 20 bucks he was happy cuz usually its like 250 bucks.

I am with Nahlie here... She's got the right ideas!!! Honestly, sexy is a state of mind! Get yourself some romance novels and a vibrator (don't be shy and no, I'm not kidding...). Or watch a sexy movie... always and forever, Henry and June about Henry Miller, the exotica writer) and his wife June who does vaudeville makes me feel EXTREMELY SEXY!

It's work like everything else, but feeling sexy is up to your brain more than anything else... Yep, I used to wear high heel and go dancing though this was WITH MS... I can't do those things anymore, and it really does not appeal to me anyway... I feel sexy when I'm digging in the dirt and tending to my plants!! xoxoxo Cj (Cindyjo) Yep, even after 24 years with MS...

Sister, sadly, do I ever understand this!!

I am known for my stilettos and I refuse to let MS take that away. I don't wear them everyday anymore, but when I get dressed up I have them on. I don't think my firends would recognize me without them. I cut my hair short into a chinese bob, which requires no work. I start to get ready for a 1pm lunch at 9 am, but I am fierce when I get there.
Ofcourse I come home and take a nap afterwards,but all the head turning and compliments make it worth it. Going to run errands I have the cutest flip flops. Most buckle so that I don't kick them off my feet. But I dress casual and comfortable for errands. Make up always and like Nahlie said go get pedicure makes you feel so good to look down at feet you can't feel and see how very pretty they are. MS can't take your beauty, just make you work harder for everyone else to notice it. Cheer up we all think you are drop dead gorgeous!

Always remember that beauty is an INSIDE JOB... Don't trust our mass media and their stupidity. You are beautiful because you are here, for one, and you are beautiful by just being you! xo Cj

OK all you have convinced me. You only feel as good as you look so I am back at the pool, getting a bit of a tan and polishing up the nails. Who knows make up may be next. Gotta start somewhere! Thanks you guys.