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AusSue
I am going to vent - sorry in advance but as they say sometimes it just gets too much.
I have been really struggling for over a month with a variety of ms issues. The worst of which was the eye trouble. My right eye basically went blind & left eye was following fast. It also closed & did the rapid blinking.
Did a rapid run around all the specialists with neurologist on friday then eye specialist at hospital the following monday & 4 hours worth of tests & different Drs looking at it with drops etc. Was told it was nerve damage & could easily go totally blind so freaked out. Then told had to wait for a appt at eye & ear hospital & that could take anything from weeks on, burst out crying as couldn't take thought of waiting. By time was leaving the registrar (head Dr) came out with the phone & the hospital had got me in that Wednesday for the specialised testing that they are the only ones in state to have the machine.
Went there on the Wednesday & by this stage all ms symptoms had kicked in so could not get out of w/chair much at all either. Had the testing done, blacked out during the kaleidoscope one of all these different things spinning & I was supposed to say yes when saw the right letter in the middle. They think that was seizures or similar. That appt also took hours as had 2 different lots of tests & then wait to see the specialist after it for results. Their decision was that I needed steroids & wanted me to see neurologist again to organise it.
Rang neurologist rooms next day & got an appt on Friday to see him. He took look at few of my reactions & mainly eyes, which were real bad by then & said - think you need treatment, when can we start. I thought he meant have drip & go home but when I said "well Im here now" & he replied I will get the bed manager & we will "create a bed for you" I was shocked as it is hard to get beds in our public hospitals.
Then I had to throw in another issue. I said I need to be out of hospital early next week as mother in law had passed away on the Wednesday night. We didn't know when the funeral was as the coroners had taken the body but thought early the following week. He promised I would be out in time.
Got room within a few hours & on drip that night. Saw neurology team that night & they were surprised I had managed till then as I literally could not lift myself to get on/off bed or to loo. I couldn't see out of right eye & left eye was constantly blinking & teary.
The next day (Saturday) I lost the plot totally. I could barely get out of bed & let them just come & empty catheter bag at the bed rather than get up with assistance, didn't have a walker so wasn't allowed out of bed by myself. Husband came in & brought me a few things & he was really struggling with me being in hospital, not being able to see properly, walk, speech was bad etc etc. He needed me at home too as he was was struggling with loss of his Mum, she was 92 but we were very close to her. She was more a Mum to me than mine is.
Later in day my leg decided to spasm madly but then my good leg joined in so both were spasming, tried to lay down, nurse tried to put piloow under them to help & that made them worse, then back went into severe spasm & I couldnt move at all. They ended up calling the Dr's giving me valium, tramadol & ended up with morphine through the drip. The legs went for over 1 hour & back didnt release for long time after that so couldnt move or move head etc.
I was in agony & just burst into tears & couldnt stop. They kept aksing me what was wrong & I felt like saying -where do I start? just wanted hubby there but we live about 1-1.5hr drive from hospital I was in so couldn't ask him to drive back & nothing he could do.
When tea came I couldnt move enough to take covers off food or open containers so had to get help with everything. Made me feel really useless to say the least. Had a really nice nurse looking after me which was good.
Had tv on just to take away from the boredom too.
Sunday was boring to say least, saw Dr's nurses & had tv on for background. Half the time couldnt focus on it but fell asleep with it on better. Had phone call from Sister in law with details of funeral for that Wednesday so I needed to be home by Tuesday at latest. I was reading a poem at the service that I had written about Mum & she knew that.
Saw neuro's on Monday & they were talking rehabilitation after the hospital, not home. I freaked out & said that I refused as had to be home to be with husband before & after funeral.
Had assessment by physio & ot's & they agreed I could go home as have modified house & local physio group etc. Was given a walker so that I could get out of bed & move around a bit. (I had been admitted after dr appt that I went to from work on electric w/chair).
Then had to wait for all the paperwork to be signed off by neuro's next morning.
I have been really struggling for over a month with a variety of ms issues. The worst of which was the eye trouble. My right eye basically went blind & left eye was following fast. It also closed & did the rapid blinking.
Did a rapid run around all the specialists with neurologist on friday then eye specialist at hospital the following monday & 4 hours worth of tests & different Drs looking at it with drops etc. Was told it was nerve damage & could easily go totally blind so freaked out. Then told had to wait for a appt at eye & ear hospital & that could take anything from weeks on, burst out crying as couldn't take thought of waiting. By time was leaving the registrar (head Dr) came out with the phone & the hospital had got me in that Wednesday for the specialised testing that they are the only ones in state to have the machine.
Went there on the Wednesday & by this stage all ms symptoms had kicked in so could not get out of w/chair much at all either. Had the testing done, blacked out during the kaleidoscope one of all these different things spinning & I was supposed to say yes when saw the right letter in the middle. They think that was seizures or similar. That appt also took hours as had 2 different lots of tests & then wait to see the specialist after it for results. Their decision was that I needed steroids & wanted me to see neurologist again to organise it.
Rang neurologist rooms next day & got an appt on Friday to see him. He took look at few of my reactions & mainly eyes, which were real bad by then & said - think you need treatment, when can we start. I thought he meant have drip & go home but when I said "well Im here now" & he replied I will get the bed manager & we will "create a bed for you" I was shocked as it is hard to get beds in our public hospitals.
Then I had to throw in another issue. I said I need to be out of hospital early next week as mother in law had passed away on the Wednesday night. We didn't know when the funeral was as the coroners had taken the body but thought early the following week. He promised I would be out in time.
Got room within a few hours & on drip that night. Saw neurology team that night & they were surprised I had managed till then as I literally could not lift myself to get on/off bed or to loo. I couldn't see out of right eye & left eye was constantly blinking & teary.
The next day (Saturday) I lost the plot totally. I could barely get out of bed & let them just come & empty catheter bag at the bed rather than get up with assistance, didn't have a walker so wasn't allowed out of bed by myself. Husband came in & brought me a few things & he was really struggling with me being in hospital, not being able to see properly, walk, speech was bad etc etc. He needed me at home too as he was was struggling with loss of his Mum, she was 92 but we were very close to her. She was more a Mum to me than mine is.
Later in day my leg decided to spasm madly but then my good leg joined in so both were spasming, tried to lay down, nurse tried to put piloow under them to help & that made them worse, then back went into severe spasm & I couldnt move at all. They ended up calling the Dr's giving me valium, tramadol & ended up with morphine through the drip. The legs went for over 1 hour & back didnt release for long time after that so couldnt move or move head etc.
I was in agony & just burst into tears & couldnt stop. They kept aksing me what was wrong & I felt like saying -where do I start? just wanted hubby there but we live about 1-1.5hr drive from hospital I was in so couldn't ask him to drive back & nothing he could do.
When tea came I couldnt move enough to take covers off food or open containers so had to get help with everything. Made me feel really useless to say the least. Had a really nice nurse looking after me which was good.
Had tv on just to take away from the boredom too.
Sunday was boring to say least, saw Dr's nurses & had tv on for background. Half the time couldnt focus on it but fell asleep with it on better. Had phone call from Sister in law with details of funeral for that Wednesday so I needed to be home by Tuesday at latest. I was reading a poem at the service that I had written about Mum & she knew that.
Saw neuro's on Monday & they were talking rehabilitation after the hospital, not home. I freaked out & said that I refused as had to be home to be with husband before & after funeral.
Had assessment by physio & ot's & they agreed I could go home as have modified house & local physio group etc. Was given a walker so that I could get out of bed & move around a bit. (I had been admitted after dr appt that I went to from work on electric w/chair).
Then had to wait for all the paperwork to be signed off by neuro's next morning.
On the Tuesday morning the nurses were trying to hurry me up so they could "meet their target & get me out by 10am". They tried to get me to have my shower & I refused until the Dr's had been as if you are in the shower they miss you on rounds & you have to wait to try to get them back. The Dr's eventually came well after 9am & then I had the run of physio, ot, & pharmacy coming one after another with questions to fill out paperwork.
The nurse came back & "suggested" I just get dressed & then go to the transit lounge to wait for the rest of the discharge things. I lost my cool big time. I was shaking like a leaf, couldn't answer questions clearly & was sweating heaps. I just told her that you cant do this to me. I am in the midst of a ms flare, I am trying to get myself organised to go home, I have Mum's funeral tomorrow so I have to be home & I haven't got a lift home so have to go by trains etc. You are trying to hurry me more & stressing me big time, give me a break. & burst into tears again. (seems to be the way).
She apologised & they all backed off & didn't push me from then on. I stayed in my bed/area until I left the room. I rang hubby & said I was going to get a maxitaxi to the station & he said to just get it home & don't worry about the $$ as it was too much to get home by 2 trains.
The Dr's still suggested rehab or come back that night for further "observation" & I said no I needed to be home.
Got home very tired but glad to be home. Hubby was glad I was home that night & we organised ourselves for the next morning & his Mum's funeral. That was one of the hardest days of our lives. I managed to read the poem, started very emotional at the end part when I looked at David & family sitting there. David struggled when he & brothers wheeled coffin to hearse but made it. I really struggled all day & cried lots, one of the brothers in law supported me out of service as I was very shaky to say least.
The funeral at cemetery was very short & nice, still hard to actually say goodbye to Mum & most broke there too. We had coffee & food in a room after which was nice so got to socialise.
I could barely walk back to the car, left side gave up totally to say least. Made hubby take next day off work as he was going to go but I just told him he was exhausted too & I needed him at home with me so we rested & then went out for coffee & cake. I had to use w/chair as just couldnt walk much at all.
This last week I thought I would improve. I have made it to our exersice/physio group & coffee after with other ms friends so that was good. Has made me realise how bad the relapse was though as really struggling with the exersises even reduced one's.
This weekend I have been trying to rest a bit & do some stretches etc at least. We went to do shopping & leg gave way within about 10mins so had to get shopping centre scooter to use. Still exhausted when I got home even using that.
Right eye has shut again (tired) & everything aches. I am so over all this, I am due to go back to work tomorrow & hubby turns to me & said "you are not doing our full 5 hours are you?" Have been trying to discuss it with him last week to no help & now due to do 5 hours & dont think I will cope.
I am scared stiff I am going to make myself worse, but have to get back to work at some stage. Will be using electric w/chair to get there at least & can mainly use it at work.
Add to all this have been having seizures & diverticulitis is bad with constipation every day, lucky to go every 4-5 days with stuff to help. See that surgeon this week too.
I know you can't help but will understand but just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading, I am just so tired of the challenges keeping coming.
My Mum actually came to visit once & brought flowers, disappointed in her again, as usual too busy to be any support when needed. Have only had 2 friends come over & those 2 & 2 other phone & 1 who is interstate keep in touch with messages on mobile phone, so feel like they have all disappeared when needed too. I told one of my friends that I am not going to any more of the group get togethers as feel like they have deserted me & no where near me too. Sick of being there for them & this time I really needed help/support & didn't get even phone calls - didn't think that was too much too ask.
I am still an emotional wreck & bursting into tears at nothing with anyone. Just hope I don't lose it in other ways as when I am emotional/low I tend to peak before thinking so heaven help anyone who crosses me or gets in my way. Guess super sensitive too.
Going to crawl back into my hole, & thank God I have a good hubby who is my best friend & there for me always & does heaps.
Thanks for letting me vent, even if it is jumbled.
The additional stress you were under probably put you in that "second" flare you had while in the hospital! I'm so sorry you went through this. Your ultimate goal of going to mum's funeral was realized thank goodness, but I'm sure she would have understood if you could not have made it.
It sounds like you need to take a few days off of work and get yourelf back together. Did the steroids help any? How are you feeliing now? Can you take off work for the week while you gather your strength? You have been through a horrible stressful ordeal, be good to yourself now, or the symptoms can get worse.
I will include you in my prayers for a speedy, healthy, recovery. Please update us on your status now. Thanks
My Mum actually came to visit once & brought flowers, disappointed in her again, as usual too busy to be any support when needed. Have only had 2 friends come over & those 2 & 2 other phone & 1 who is interstate keep in touch with messages on mobile phone, so feel like they have all disappeared when needed too. I told one of my friends that I am not going to any more of the group get togethers as feel like they have deserted me & no where near me too. Sick of being there for them & this time I really needed help/support & didn't get even phone calls - didn't think that was too much too ask.
I am still an emotional wreck & bursting into tears at nothing with anyone. Just hope I don't lose it in other ways as when I am emotional/low I tend to peak before thinking so heaven help anyone who crosses me or gets in my way. Guess super sensitive too.
Going to crawl back into my hole, & thank God I have a good hubby who is my best friend & there for me always & does heaps.
Thanks for letting me vent, even if it is jumbled.
with love and loads of hugs whatever you need spritually you have!
I'm sorry sorry to read about how difficult things are for you these days and I'm also sad to read about the loss of your mother-in-law. :(
Your strength always amazes me and I find you to be a solid person to look towards. Perhaps your friends that you feel have deserted you view the the same way and now that same AusSue needs their support. You are in need of their support now so the role is reversed it seems to me.
As for the medical problems you are having, they sound intense to me and I'd be crying my eyes out too.
I am sorry to learn of your visual difficulties. I can totally relate being I've lost the sight in both eyes at different times.
I hope you get well soon and try to stay calm if you can.
Thank god you have a wonderful husband that loves you no doubt. You take care my friend!
Ichoppell - the steroids helped in that they stopped the left eye going as bad as the right eye was/is. It also got me out of bed & able to walk - admittedly not far or fast etc. It has also increased my hunger - constantly eating, not worried about that as I know I will out on weight but sometimes you just have to do that.
There was no way I would have missed David's Mums funeral, I was always closer to her than I am with my own (which is a shame but not going to change). I would have gone in a wheelchair if I had to, would not have let David have to go to that by himself, he has always supported me through everything that has been thrown at us too.
I did take an extra week off, probably not enough but I have always been one to try to get back to work when I can.I am not going into work for the 3 days that I usually work. This week I am working Monday (today) & did 5 hours, Wednesday (will probably do less as I have got an appt with the collarectoral surgeon after work.
Thank you very much to Alexana, Koda1, hope4acure & tcdugan for all taking the time to respond to my posts too.
I am exhausted from work today, my legs are aching as I use the walker around the office as much as I can, probably should have used the wheelchair but I like to get up & move when I can. My right eye is almost closed again & the vision is very poor through it.
I am trying to build myself up a bit at least as we are going away this coming weekend for 3 nights to Auckland, New Zealand. I have never been to N.Z. & there have been some fantastic deals to go there which is how come we booked the trip well before I got sick this time. We booked it as a celebration of our 29th wedding anniversary last month. We are taking a walker that is also a wheelchair (transit-has to be pushed) so that way I can use it either way. Will be something nice to look forward to as well.
Will keep updating when I can.
Hope to rest a bit tomorrow after physio in the morning.
Hugs to you from far away.
Went to physio group today & did usual exercises, they have been reduced due to flare up. Went on walker & was doing well up till then.
Got off walker & left foot just wouldn't move again, it just dragged totally.
Was real weird & others agreed too as it moved on walker & then got off it & couldn't lift it at all. The whole foot top & bottom has been having weird pains all day & still doing it. It is shooting pains up the top part when I am sitting esp & when I walk the bottom is still numb/cushion feeling but very painful to put any weight on it.
At same time the left arm (same side) has been doing similar with pains shooting up & down it & the arm stiffening straight at times & hand cramping.
##@@%% looks like flare up hasnt gone.
Sorry for another whine but this is so frustrating with different crap happening. It has to go away quick as we are going away for 3 night over the weekend to New Zealand & I have never been there & want to enjoy it.
I really hope you get to enjoy NZ and i absolutely admire your strength hun. Crying is completely normal and expected with all the things you are dealing with, you are amazing, i really wish i could be down there and give you a big hug or help out somehow.. Hoping July visits now...If M's depression improves (he wants space).
Sounds like you had a mixed experience of good and bad with Melb hospital stay too. Not a huge shock, but glad they got you in ASAP (your original post).
I will be thinking of you and hope you do have safe travels and NZ goes well. Sending love and support xo
Well things don't go as planned. The airline stewardesses were so rude when we asked about being boarded first (which is standard for wheelchair passengers) & was very rudely told we werent getting boarded first but last. This meant we had to wait till everyone else was seated then try to get seat & also try to find room for our carry on baggage. Of course there wasnt room up above for ours & they wanted to take my medication bag & put it further back in an overhead cabin. I was almost in tears by then & hubby just said "no way my wife may need these in flight" so we put them under our feet. They basically closed the doors & started their announcements before we were even seated & didnt come & talk to us at all which they are supposed to do. Worse was to come. We got to New Zealand & they are supposed to assist us through to baggage & customs so that I can stay in the w/chair. We got to the end of the concourse & the hostess said "I cant help you any further I have another plane to meet, she will just have to lean on the luggage trolley". We got the baggage & David couldnt push me & luggage through the airport so I had to stand in the queue (if hostess had come would have gone through another line & faster) so by the time we got through the customs line etc my left leg was dead & shaky & I was really struggling. Was not a good start at all.
Our shuttle bus was there for us, should have seen the size of the step so had to get boost up that. Got to hotel & dropped at top of path down to it (not at door) so struggled down the hill to it. We got there & they tried to tell us we owed them more $$ so another argument. Eventually got to our "disabled room" Glad I could walk ok as it was not much of a disabled room. The only thing it had was a chair in the shower & could barely fit the walker in the room.
Double bed that was very narrow & short (hubby is 6ft2" so didnt make for good. Went to make drink etc & found very little there fot un, usually a lea3 .
Had a great 34kr yours in New Zealand & came home virgin aerlinse & they were really goon. allowed to walk with using chair in shower.
Room was clean & ok. We had a great w.e, & tried to walk into Aucland which was good. Wil suffer now tomorrow I am sure of it.
Had a great holiday & then stress as leaving our plane was tempry. but the hostess waled us right the way through too.
Very tired now but glad we got awa for the break.
Trouble thingking but warted ro respond.
Hope all ae well
I am so sorry this is still happening to you it mel by the way from the ms site chat we have met a few times. I do hope all does go well with you sooner then later.
You take care