hey KittyTwist
I'm not sure how well I'd cope if i were in a similar situation. It sounds kinda daunting to me. I'm sure a lot of members here have evolved strategies to make it work. Does being co-conscious help at such times?

I've done so much better since even writing this! I think I'm just always trying to control life with an iron fist. So this one day, I kind of just let myself BE a multiple, w.out the judgment and scrambling to hide it, and I got SOO much accomplished that day! I was so proud of my self, my system, so yeah, if I can be more shared conscious I think that will help tons! I just have to keep being kind to my parts and hope they trust more and work together more.
Thanks for the support!!

that sounds like an amazing day you had, and a bit of a revelation? From what I've come to believe from my time in this group, treating parts with gentleness and respect is so important, they deserve (and need?) to be validated - and trust a key? I'm really glad you had that day :)

Remember. This condition is primarily a defense mechanism. I made a deal with mine. I let them out whenever they want. I'm exchange they only act for the good of all. Go team.

I still have little control as to who comes out when....except for my little one who is 7 and likes the name Nicole. My teen, Amber....actually that is me and I've been out a lot today. I ain't sayin much cause its just stupid. Ya all aint stupid...just me talkin is. No one believes me anyway. What's the point?

hi Ambience, that sounds like an ideal sort of relationship. Did it take long to reach this balance?

hiya Amber
talking may seem irrelevant at times, but it's one way that we can learn about and from others, often a good thing. Does no-one really believe you, or do your truths sometimes make them feel uncomfortable perhaps? Or is it something else? Which ever it is, I think it's good that you logged on to participate today.

K2, bout 25 years. Mostly due to the fact that I didn't find daily strength till a few years ago. Self education is huge. Once I learned to communicate with them, making the deal was easy. Everybody wins. They have unlimited access, and when they are out, they pretend to be me around others.

Keep typing things and the deleting em.... Amber

perhaps type then hit Send Button before you can change your mind, Amber? People here won't judge, and you have a place to belong. What ever you type, I tend to believe it will resonate with many members

being on DS helped a lot then, Ambience? If I tried to summarise the process, would it be ... acknowledge, communicate, understand, validate, trust and share?
and yeah, I know, sorry - a member here from time to time is amused with my need to label things, but it's how my mind functions, how i try to understand the world. :)

I'm glad switching is easier for you now. If it were that difficult for us we would hate it. It only feels like the shiver you get when you drink too strong coffee or eat somthing really tart to us. We seem to wake up at night by ourselves very often and when another of us co-joins there is only a flood of. feelings and awareness no shiver. And yes I identify with your statement that it is a tremendous help writing on this site. Props to Kevin\K2sharpe he is so helpful and seems to be very insightful and kniw just what to say at just the right time. We are feeling blessed to have found this site too.

Switches how u know?

Not sure what your asking Amberwindow?

If you mean how we switch we are co-concious we switch who is able to control like a hand or the whole body who is in front totally or partiallly like for writing or typing or dancing example April likes to walk the dog so she does this except when a car comes by she doesn't like cars (we have a sociopath stalking us for over two years) and she is often triggered to hide when certain types of cars pass by especilly official vehicals. . At first this made walking weird we have had bike accidents when she got scared and hid because I had to take over and i got confused abput the peddles and now she refuses to ride our bike. .Fortunately April and Summer are most comfortable hanging back we all can talk out loud with out really switching so I have to pay constant attention to this to avoid seeming odd around outsiders Summer likes to mimic tv characters which im somtimes worried might come off as odd. Lol our girlfriend scored points big time with Summer recently by laughing and saying somthing nice about somthing Summer mimiced and Aprl likes to joke around and seems to have very differant ideas about what is appropriate to say at any given time. The shivers aren't always there
For example if we don't think about it before we switch they often don't happen. I think we could all try walking at the same time as i can feel us walking when April walks and when the dog pulls on rhe leash but its a little different than when she suddenly jumps into the back ground and i have to conciously take over. I guess i would describle it like auto pilot or cruise control on a car you feel the ride and see the speedometer but if you need to slow the car down and it suddenly excellerates like when going up a hill there is a mpment of panic and it takes a second to get oriented enough to hit the brake pedal is that what your asking ?. How it feels for us ? That's not an exact description but there aren't ready made words to describe it exactly.
Update,
April just took the dog for a walk and I tried co-walking with her it didn't really work. all I could do is either walk or feel her walk I did notice she walks differently her gait is faster and more clipped and I have noticed when Summer walks she tends to skip and jump around and likes to try and spin full circles on our heel lol.ok now I'm just blabbing . It's nice to be able to talk about this stuff sorry we are always trying so hard to act normal it feels nice to be free to be able to just blab lol.
Love Bee April Summer and C.. and Elizabeth we want you with us too !