My advice as someone who has DID and as someone who has littles who try to reach out to external people because they feel they are not getting what they need from those with them is give them what they want. Perhaps let the little know that you are having difficulties coming up with a nickname and therefore to come up with a name that would be suitable you need to get to know them a little more. Ask him/her what they like doing, favourite colour, movie. animal, etc etc. Prepare to be flexible that the little might change their mind about what they are called. I have a 6 yr old friend (best friend's daughter) and she is forever changing what she wants me to call her.

Thanks Tyzz. I appreciate your feedback on this. She basically acts like a kid coloring with crayons and stuff then switches to a rebellious teenager obsessed with glitter and rock n roll so I'm not entirely sure of where to class her. I had thought of calling her Avril cuz she likes Avril Lavigne and mimics her at times. But now I'm pondering "Glit" or "Glitter" because of the glittery lotion she's obsessed with lol.

Those both sound like really good ideas, actually. I'd just try them out and see what happens--try not to over-think things; ideas will probably come to you naturally as you spend more time with her. And you could give her multiple nicknames, 'cause like Tyzz said, kids change their minds a lot, and a little diversity never hurt anybody, LOL. :)

If I get the chance to talk to her I will definitely bring it up. And the whole point of kids changing their mind a lot really is hitting home with this alter and with how my friend has been acting in general. I'm going to sit back and see how things pan out. :)

hey buddy no give her something that is special between the two of you,, she obviosly wants that ,,,, to bond and that little girl sees you as bigger than life my little gurl had that attachment to the one I just shared with you,,, she wants a sorta mommy type I dont know what to tell you ,,,, but maybe go online think of memories with you two take your time make it special I know you can do this for her,, thanks you are the chosen whether u like it or not pretty neat really that she is that close to you,,,

You bring up a good point BMW. I will have to talk to her more about that whenever I speak with her next.

I think a friend doesn't always give another friend what they want. Sometimes that is enabling and only encourages some things that shouldn't be encouraged.

I do have nicknames for mine, but not real names, and they just kind of describe the attitude and it's not for purposes of further developing a separate personality. So one is nicknamed Janis because it's like Janis Joplin, but that's more an adjective than a name. Like I might say to someone, " are you anxious today?" who is normal, and for DID I might say 'are you Janis today?" though I know it's not a separate person. It's me I know but it describes how I am, what parts of me are dissociated and what parts are connecting and presenting.

she reached out to you, this is no small thing and has to be worth more than something silly is what I think? I think choosing something meaningful between the both of you is important

A friend of mine had a litle who couldn't remember her name the first time we chatted. The second time she remembered her name but didn't like it so we went to an online site listing names and their meanings and she chose a new first and second name herself. She had lovely names now

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