Multiple Personalities Support Group
Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...
No one seems to understand. I recently sought out counseling and by the things I told my counselor, he thinks I have multiple personality disorder. I looked it up and have everything symptom. My major issue, one that brought me to counseling, is my impulsive behavior.
Its ruining my relationship and we just got married. If we fight, I run and turn to alcohol. I used to be addicted to opioids, but stopped 6 months ago. I believe I substituted with alcohol. I am now pregnant, so obviously none of that is a issue, until yesterday.
I need advice, and a quick way to resolve these destructive impulses before it ruins everything :(
I do have good days...
because looking at the tough stuff - your hurts, your shortcomings, your wounds and your drk humanity side - it is tough. DBT gives you some tools that hep you deal with the emotional ups and downs of being honest.
but that is me and what works for me. you will have to experiment to find what works for you. just keep hanging in there nd be open with your loved ones.
the DBT is also great for addictions....have you heard back from your NA person?
how are things going on your end??
So, this is how it works: It requires two pads or pieces of paper, two pens or pencils, and a timer. Each person gets a pad of paper and a writing utensil. The idea is to identify a problem...preferably, before an argument starts, but this part is easy if one starts to break out. Then each person is given a pre-determined amount of time to speak while the other person listens. If something comes up with the listener during that time, they may ask for a pause so they can make a note of it and then continue listening until the speaker's turn is up. If the note takes longer than a few moments, the time can be added at the end to make up for it. But the point is to take just a moment to make a short note during the speaker's turn.
The first thing to do is agree on how long each person gets to speak at a time...which may be 5, 10, 15 or more minutes at a time depending on how long each person might want or need to talk. The point is to keep it equal. If time permitted is short then a shorter turn may be a good idea for that particular issue. So, sitting across from each other, you each write down what you think the current problem is. There is a possibility that you don't even agree on what the problem is, and that's ok. You can start with that. Once you've agreed on how long each turn will be, set a timer for that amount of time. The cutoff doesn't have to be exact but the wrap-up needs to be a respectful amount of time. If needed an additional wrap-up time limit can be agreed on, too. Once you've both written down what you think the problem is, one can begin their turn. If desired, a die can be rolled to determine who goes first. Something that can be helpful if and when friction starts is to have some kind of object to in the center of the table between the two participants, to be able to redirect attention to "the problem" at hand if one person starts aiming their comments at the other. The object, whatever it is, could be a book, a teddy bear, or any other inert objet that will represent "The Problem". Ideally this "game" will be played when there is unlimited time to work it out and come to some kind of agreeable conclusion. However if the inevitable happens at some point and something interrupts or there just isn't enough time to finish in one sitting, a note can be made about where you left off (who was saying what) and who's turn was last. And then make a date and time to revisit if needed. If you give this a try, let me know how it turns out!!