Multiple Personalities Support Group
Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

that must be a most desolate feeling :(
it's hard enough whena relationship ends and we separate, it musty be so much harder if you can't leave
But sometimes even the most lost of situations are retrievable. Perhaps talk with Kaylee? See if she can suggest anything to help things? And try to understand why you and your husband fight all the time, cos if you cna avoid that then perhaps your relationship can be salvaged?
kevin
I don't have any advice....I basically don't date,maybe because I'm worried about that same thing.
Listen, there are old old threads on here about spouses of multiples and their concerns...maybe scroll down through all the old posts and find some of those and read through them. It might help you to understand what your husband feels about all of you guys. I would think he actually loves Shai, just struggles to communicate with you??