hey incognito wish I had answers I think it takes a very special person to be with some one with multip[icity however I know many are able and probably depends on where you are at in life support system , Is the person doing their own work, For me not been successful in lifes arena of romance until now , I fell deeply for a dear friend of 20 years and kinda like the movie hannah free or Forrest Gump we are peas and carrots her mind is as complex as mine ,, and we cant be together right now,,, but we have great respect and have enormous intimacy we have the ground work for it ,,,, we have been together for a year plus as more than friends but she is in the closet and now in therapy so I have let go out of respect ,,i would not give anything for friendship I am thinking less intensity now in my place in life and more intimacy seems to work , but must be an amazingly understanding person and patience on both sides I would say friendship and respect has to be established , I am of the opinion two broken wings dont fly I would imagine it would take a person who is grounded and may not have DID my opinion hope it helps

i've been married over 13 years. my husband knew i was split before we did. through a lot of struggle and learning and love we have a polyamorous relationship. it is understood that while Lily is his wife not all the others ascribe to that. they are free to have their own relationships. however there are rules in place so that mistakes from the past do not get relived.

My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years now. He is diagnosed with PTSD as well as DID. When we got married he was misdiagnosed as having Bi-Polar disorder. It wasn't until about a year and a half ago that we finally got the correct diagnosis that covered all of his symptoms (including the blackouts, behavior extremes, etc).

To say it's been rough is an understatement. We make it work in many ways however. First off, we came to the marriage with the same core beliefs about God and marriage/divorce. Second, it really helps that we have the same sense of humor and I find him hilarious! While DID is not funny, there are definitely funny moments and luckily we're both able to laugh at them. Some of these moments certainly aren't funny at the time, but looking back they make for great stories! Thirdly, we're both fiercely loyal. We don't have the dream marriage, but I'm not looking for anyone else - this is our life. This is our choice to stay together and we make the best of it. I love him and he's my best friend (most of the time!)

There are many times he doesn't either know who I am, or at least doesn't understand our relationship and that can be heart breaking. Most of the time he's more a friend to our daughter instead of a father, but that's something we're working through (my daughter was 1 1/2 when I met my husband).

Most importantly I have an awesome relationship with God that has only gotten stronger as our struggle has gotten more intense. I have learned what it means to "give something to God." He has my marriage, my husband, and my family in His hands. I am not in control, He is. I lose sight of that sometimes, but I always go back to it and I find a peace that can not be thoroughly explained.

We've dealt with my husband's alcohol dependence for several years as well as his misuse of his medications. I'm trying to detach from that part of him so as not to ride the same emotional roller coaster as him during those times. It looks like we're headed in the right direction.

So, yes, someone with DID can have a relationship. You have to know what you want and need as best you can. You have to be honest as best you can and you have to be patient. Just as you need your partner to be patient and accepting of you, ALL of you, you have to be patient with your partner when they get overwhelmed or make mistakes. You can't seek a caretaker, but someone who can walk by you or help hold you up when you need it most.

That's my 2 cents worth as the wife of someone with DID.

i would just like to say that as a community of individuals all living in one body, we are just that... Individuals.... sharing a living space

Thus far our experience has been different than that. How my husband describes his parts is more that they're all variations of himself. He doesn't feel they're individual so much as simply different versions of himself. As we've been progressing through therapy he's feeling more connected to each part and has a better sense of how each one feels and is able to be more present even if the other parts are out. He has more of what he describes as "tunnel vision" these days than he did before. He can see and feel what's happening though viewing it as if through a long range lens and not really apart of what's taking place but more as a spectator. He certainly still has times of complete blackout where he has no recollection of what transpired during that time he can't account for.
With my husband's system there are distinct parts, but at least so far, they're more him at various ages and stages of development. Also certain parts are more connected to various memories and emotions.

its hard, I am in a relationship with my GF and intimacy is hardshe knows about my DID and respects all parts of me, but when it comes to intimacy, I can't do itI just get into a mode that's hard to come out ofit takes me a long time..she is patient and understanding and sometimes I think if I am worth it
I hope u find someone who will accept all parts of u and u as a whole..and give u that peace and understanding in whatever u decide to do..
thxs
S and all

Been married 19 years. It's always been an adventure, but since the diagnosis of DID it has not been great. Sex is almost non existent. If there is any kind of disagreement about events I am automatically figured as the one who is wrong. The disrespect is subtle, and he would deny it, but it is very real.