oh PS: the other thing thats weird is that here on this site lots of 'the others' insist on being called by their own names. Only Jessica and Arthur have ever let their names out before. Sometimes I feel almost irrelevant here. Its sort of almost like its none of my business. I just type for people.

hugs to you and welcome here.
we also have names but we also get called by our birthname only.
i am trying to get noticed at my psych's. but that's hard if i keep hiding it..
and you are not irrelevant. in fact, i think my(/your) job is the most obvious one in the system. keeping everything together. well, as much as possible.
((hugs))

Adding my hugs and welcome as well! My system generally responds to my given name, however, now with new parts emerging, they will correct the person they are speaking to. But mostly they speak to my shrink and my husband and daughter, so that works okay. The person who is your counterpart in my system is called Guardian. She is my perfect mimic, always knows what is happening, except with the new parts again, and she has helped keep me going through all of this.

Feel free to post and jump in with questions, I'm glad you are here.
Karen

You are most definitely real. Everyone in a system has a difficul job but my psych told me (I have the same position as you) that in some ways my job is the hardest because everyone on the inside can feel what they want but we have to always put on an act. My internals have names as well but except for a best friend none of their names get used externally.

I also think our experience shows a very high level of coconsciousness,. Even though its the others controlling the situation you still need to be ready to accept what they say. What would happen if you stopped listening to what they said?

Please value your position within the group. I can very much understand the feeling of being the community bus but without the shell there would be no one in it to drive. So you definitely have a very important job there so dont ever forget that.

Hey thanks everyone, that was the most helpful stuff I've ever heard. Since I've started taking pride in my work the others respect me a lot more. We're getting on a lot better these last few days. (and cuz we started sorting out stuff with a nasty situation on the inside). Hearing that there are other people out there doing the same job, kinda made it legit, if that makes sense. Yeah we do have a hard job dont we. And Im sorta glad not to have to remember everything at once all the time. Heaps of the others read what you wrote and are treating me more serious now and i try and treat them more serious too, like with respect, cuz i figure all our jobs must be important in some way or another even if I dont understand how come. You guys are good value. Its a priveledge spending time with you. Hope we can all help each other out :)