I have never heard of this.but who knows what alters can do.

I would strongly discourage such. Whereas there are many advantages to having a romantic relationship with an alter, there are many more disadvantages. I always encourage that one connect with as many alters as possible. By connecting, many alters realize that they are working toward the same goal or share the same or similar purposes and are strngthened when working together. This is always a good thing. When the connection between alters and/or original personailiy and alters reaches a romantic level, many problems can and often do arise. Just with any romantic relationship, there are disagreements, arguements, fights, break-ups, etc. When this happens within yourself, there's really no escaping the consequences. The depression hits twice as hard and affects everyone. If an alter is characterized by self- harm or other destructive behaviors, the behaviors increase are typically more lethal. This disrupts the whole system and results in major set backs and sometimes the death and development of alters. That's my advice on the subject. Hope that its helpful. If you are involved in anytype of psychotherapy, its always a grat idea to discuss such things with your therapist. good luck.

thanks for your comments

I would be wary of this as well. Since many multiples are created by sexual abuse, and it's common to have an alt that represents the abuser, I'd be concerned that the "lover" is actually the inner abuser looking to re-enact the abuse, which is all it knows how to do.

I could see the ups and downs with this but it really is to the person discretion weather it is good or not.. If that makes one happy who's to say if its good or not. Personally I can say I'm not sure I could be like that with one of my alters. But i could see how someone could and I don't really see too much wrong with it. Of course unless like someone else said if your alters are created from sexual abuse there could be some rough roads with that.