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Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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Reed31 01/25/2014

My inside kids are having a rough time. We do NOT like changes and my older son is moving out. It's time. He's in his 20's. But there are not a lot of people my kids can hang out with and my son is one of them. There is a feeling that they're losing him. The adults know this isn't true.

There's also an anger there. It seems like everything is changing ALL of the time and it pisses us off. It feels like we recover from one change and are just picking ourselves up off the ground and we get kicked in the face with another change. Over and over. Grrrr....

If people have ideas of how I can make this easier it'd be great. We do have pets here and they are helping. And when my second son moves out, we plan to get another pet.

Thanks in advance everyone.

deleted_user 01/26/2014

Oh Reed - I don't have an answer but I sure know your pain. It was hard when my 3 kids left - each on in a different way. But I think it was worse when my daughter left. I didnt know it at the time but my littles had played with her for years. And for my sons, my oldest especially they were like big brothers that protected them. They still all get sad at times. Since they are not much to call or visit (you may remember from the Empty Nesters Group) I try to make time with each of my kids separately. We will visit them, text, send e-cards - anything to stay connected to let my inside kids know our outside family is still there. But still there is a lot of grieving,

Reed31 01/26/2014

Thanks Shar. I am trying to reinforce the idea that he isn't "gone" and will still be a big part of our lives.

I also just joined a BIG empty nest group locally and feel fortunate that most of the members have children MY age!!! (nearly 50) So there's a lot of wisdom in that group and it helps to see people who have come out the other side and are so vibrant and happy.

stephanietram 01/26/2014

reassurances for your littles. Maybe you can visit where your son is moving to, so they can know it is a real place and he is not going away forever.

Reed31 01/27/2014

Thanks Stephanie. That's a good idea. : )

mamoth 01/28/2014

That is hard. My kids are not that old yet but I keep remembering my oldest as a baby and Im like what the hell shrink would ya. Go back a little more time please. Singulers somtimes say time flys try being multiple. Pets are good. Sounds like you just need time.

deleted_user 02/01/2014

hi! i'm Maggie not alan. he got scared or something so I came here. sorry your sad shar1953. are littles like what I am? I don't know how old I am for sure. he's real old like just about 40. anyways, I write to alan in a paper journal. I like typing better but I write anyways.

I like pictures. I can draw some and that helps make me feel better. do your littles like to draw? I also like legos. ok. get better! bye

Reed31 02/01/2014

I'm glad you spoke up Maggie because I think talking to other littles is going to help - that is to say - other multiples who have little people inside.

I do enjoy legos and puzzles but like someone here with me when I'm little. Doesn't always work out that way so it's hard.

Just have to try to find some other ways to deal with it.

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