I was 24 and my brother was 13. I feel awful for him because as the years go by he finds he doesn't have many memories on our mom. I am so sorry you did not have your mother longer.

I am 30, Mom passed eight months ago at the age of 55. She was to me the greatest women that ever lived. I wish I had her 30 more years. Just wanted to say to you, I am sorry you missed out on a life with a Mom. There are others here in the same boat. I hope you find support with some of them. We are all here for you.

Hugs, Nat

Hi Glory,
I am so sorry that you lost your mom at such a young age.
My mother passed away at age 60 and I was 39.
My mother suffered from depression and had many break downs (mental break downs) so event hough she was alive there were times I dint feel I had a mother. It was usually a role change. I had to act like her mother and it didnt seem fair but I would take her back on her worst day!!! In a heart beat.

I miss her so much

Nat, is right there are other women who have lost their mother at a young age like you and hopefully you can connect with them as well as with all of us!!

Raquel

i was 10. though i was at an age where i would have memories of her i don't. My parents got divorced my mom got diagnosed with cancer & then died. Basically, what i've been told, is that i blocked everything out & lived for the moment. That's why i have no memories of my childhood. Sometimes i still block it out & that is how i get through some days. Others i think about it all too much & drive myself crazy. My moms death made a HUGE impact on my life, as it would anyone else's. Though it's a little different because i have struggled with the thought of whether i really miss my mom or i just miss the ability to HAVE a mom. I hope in some way i have helped and you have been able to see that you are not alone. Anytime you need to talk, just message me.
xoxC

Hi Glory,
My mom passed away 7.5 months ago at 49yrs old. Iam 27. I agree with Nat- My mother was heaven sent and the best mom in the world. I cant really say I "cope"- I go through days when I stay on this website ALL day and others I cant even log in. It hurts to much. I guess all I can say that has helped me is keeping a journal with all my thoughts. I can speak to my family pretty openly but sometimes you just dont want to talk. They do help somewhat tho. Its like we all lost the same person but she was very different to each of us, she played a different role.

Glory, I'm so sorry you lost your mom at such a tender, young age. I almost hate to even add my answer, because my mom was 83, and I had her almost 55 wonderful years. But I think no matter how long you had/have your mom for, it's never long enough. I still miss her so very much, it'll be two months on Friday since she died.

Cal, you're so right on how our mom's are so different to each of us. She does, indeed, play a different role for each child.

I was 31 and my mom was 56. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mom so young. BIG HUGS my dear. ~Angela

Hi, i am 21, i turned 21 on dec 31st 07, my mom was 43 and just turned 43 on dec 22nd 07. I lost her 6 months ago... I think being 21 and losing your mom is both a blessing and a curse. She saw me through to the "legal age of 21", I feel as though I was finally filling my own shoes but because of that, I still had many things to learn and fun to have with her.

My mom died last year, April 13, 2007 at the age of 55. I was 34. As everyone else has said, I'm so sorry that you lost your mom at such an early age. Hugs, Bel

I am 47 and my mom died last year. I loved her, miss her. I think we all greive regardess of the age.

I am so sorry you lost your Mom so young. My mother was afraid that might happen - that she might die when I was too young to remember her, so she had a photo/portrait done of herself, so that I would know who she was. Poor dear was afraid I wouldn't know her.

I won't tell my age - let's just say I'm "over 40" and Mama died at age 99. But she had me late in life, so my age will hard for your to figure. My age and Mama's has been an aggravation when people try to tell me how I should or shouldn't grieve, since Mama lived a long life.

The heartbreak in your case is not having truly known/lived a life with your mother. And for that, I'm so sorry. But it doesn't matter how many years. The longer the life/time together, the greater the loss sometimes. You might say I react like a child and not an adult over her passing. I don't always cope. Mama's passing left the greatest void in my life. I'm alone and empty and not sure from one day to another. For someone my age, that's saying alot since I'm supposed to be mature about it. It's not how it's affected my life - I'm beginning to think she WAS my life.

I was almost 2 years old when my mother died. I am 52 now. She
died giving birth to my younger brother. I have a sister 7 years older
than me and another brother; 5 years older than me. Our mother died
right before my older brother entered the first grade. He did not
speak for a full year. The teachers had no idea how to deal with him;
back in those days. My Dad just spanked him. My sister was going into
the third grade when our mother died. My Dad's parents took my baby
brother home from the hospital and raised him for the first two years.
I was farmed out to various babysitters, while my older brother and
sister were in school. My mother left us with an abusive alcoholic
father. Our lives were "hell" without her there to care for us.

I am 24, my sister 21 and my brother 18. We lost our mum 8 months ago to a heart attack and I think CaolSue M is right, it is never long enough no matter what age xx

I was 7 when my mother passed away. I know exactly what you mean when you say your father raised you and it is not the same. Of course we really don't know what it is like to be raised by a mother, so what really is the same??? It was very difficult to cope growing up. Trying to make new friends, how to dress, how to put on make up, what to do when you start your period, dating - just everything. I used to hate it when my friends would say their mothers would get on their nerves or complained about stuff their mother would make them do. I always thought - "well at least you have a mother" .

I have never known any other woman who lost their mother at such a young age too. Coping is hard regardless of the situation. It took me years to learn to start to deal with my mothers' death. Now, I am thankful for the few memories I have and hang on to them as tight as possible. Some days are harder than others still. It has been over 35 years since she has died.

Hi

I was 37 when my mum passed away, and she was 63....she passed in 2006.Just this week had her second anniversary.And now facing her forthcoming birthday...

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