Miscarriage Support Group
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So many of my friends and myself have wonderd that if you have carried a baby that you miscarried are you really a mom.
Recently I had some testing done that proved that I dont have the best chances of having a biological child of my own. This has been hard for me to say the very least. People dont understand that this kind of news strips you of your identity, of everything you have ever dreamed of.
Sense the time I was five I have played mommmy with my baby dolls and little sister. I have played mommy with my husband with my dog. I have been a mommy 3 times althought I have no babies here on earth.
I have been struggling and tourturing myself with thoughts. Thinking that I dont want to have a baby if its half mine or somebody elses. I have just been really confused.
Somebody who was adopted here on DS made a comment to me that I am very thankful for and I really hope that if I pass this information on it can touch somebody else.
Genetics dont make a mom.
Hmmm funny thought I mean when I look at a mom and her child I dont think of genetics. i see the way that she cares for the child. i see the way she puts that child before herself. She feeds the child clothes the child loves the child. Althought I may never be able to create a child I can do all of these things and I feel that is what makes a mom.
Nomatter what is going on in your lives if you have lost a child, or dreamed of having one you dont have to wish to be a mom because you already are, congratulations to all the loving mommies here at DS.
What qualities make a mom to you? I am guessing it has little to do with genetics, chromosomes, or even birth. There is much more to it than this and we all have a chance because we are here on this earth and there are children who need moms everywhere.
Recently I had some testing done that proved that I dont have the best chances of having a biological child of my own. This has been hard for me to say the very least. People dont understand that this kind of news strips you of your identity, of everything you have ever dreamed of.
Sense the time I was five I have played mommmy with my baby dolls and little sister. I have played mommy with my husband with my dog. I have been a mommy 3 times althought I have no babies here on earth.
I have been struggling and tourturing myself with thoughts. Thinking that I dont want to have a baby if its half mine or somebody elses. I have just been really confused.
Somebody who was adopted here on DS made a comment to me that I am very thankful for and I really hope that if I pass this information on it can touch somebody else.
Genetics dont make a mom.
Hmmm funny thought I mean when I look at a mom and her child I dont think of genetics. i see the way that she cares for the child. i see the way she puts that child before herself. She feeds the child clothes the child loves the child. Althought I may never be able to create a child I can do all of these things and I feel that is what makes a mom.
Nomatter what is going on in your lives if you have lost a child, or dreamed of having one you dont have to wish to be a mom because you already are, congratulations to all the loving mommies here at DS.
What qualities make a mom to you? I am guessing it has little to do with genetics, chromosomes, or even birth. There is much more to it than this and we all have a chance because we are here on this earth and there are children who need moms everywhere.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Genetics matters not!!!!!
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...
'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
i know this because my bfs real mom died when he was very young and him and his sisters will tell you they had 2 moms the first and the second. and from what he has told me his 2nd mom was more in tune with the kids than the genetic father. he was an awesome father but how someone can have a stronger connection with a kid than a blood parent truly makes a mom.
a mom is nothing but a connection with another human being. there are a lot of genetic parents that never have been or will be a mom they werent born with the connection.
not everyone can be a mother and not everyone can be a mom and to be both is a blessing not everyone will get. bieng a mom is more important than being a mother. so to speak.
thats my opinion and if you had strong connections with a mc baby your a mom from the bottom of your heart and a real good one at that.