Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I miscarried August 22, 2010 but due to health complications I have been unable to try and conceive until now. I went through months of pain, a D&C, and another surgery to finally remedy the source of the problem. I had extensive adhesions from the csection with my daughter and a cyst on my fallopian tube. One month and world's better I can finally try again.
The only thing I feel will affect my chances, besides my PCOS, is this immense pressure I feel to get pregnant right away. I feel like it heal so many wounds, restore so much hope and faith. The part that makes everything even more difficult is I only really have a couple months to try and then I'll have to wait a year or so. My husband's in the military and come the end of November he will be out and we will be in the middle of moving back to our home state. I cannot wait another year or so. I need it now and I'm so scared it's not going to happen right away. It took us a year to get pregnant with my daughter and 7 months to get pregnant before the miscarriage. I fee like so much is riding on this and I know stress inhibits ovulation.
On top of everything, I have to go to my first baby shower since my miscarriage. Looking through her registry, thinking of all the fuss that will be made over her, looking at all the baby items stresses me beyond belief. I feel like I have to do it, though. I said I would be there, I don't go back on my word. Never mind that she's having twins one month after when I would have had my baby. Never mind that she's over 20 weeks pregnant and still smokes like a chimney. Never mind that the girl hosting it does not like me in the slightest. I said I would be there.
Ugh, I feel wound up so tight!
The only thing I feel will affect my chances, besides my PCOS, is this immense pressure I feel to get pregnant right away. I feel like it heal so many wounds, restore so much hope and faith. The part that makes everything even more difficult is I only really have a couple months to try and then I'll have to wait a year or so. My husband's in the military and come the end of November he will be out and we will be in the middle of moving back to our home state. I cannot wait another year or so. I need it now and I'm so scared it's not going to happen right away. It took us a year to get pregnant with my daughter and 7 months to get pregnant before the miscarriage. I fee like so much is riding on this and I know stress inhibits ovulation.
On top of everything, I have to go to my first baby shower since my miscarriage. Looking through her registry, thinking of all the fuss that will be made over her, looking at all the baby items stresses me beyond belief. I feel like I have to do it, though. I said I would be there, I don't go back on my word. Never mind that she's having twins one month after when I would have had my baby. Never mind that she's over 20 weeks pregnant and still smokes like a chimney. Never mind that the girl hosting it does not like me in the slightest. I said I would be there.
Ugh, I feel wound up so tight!
I know how you're feeling. I'm trying to relax, too. Normally, when I start to feel tense, or overwhelmed, I stop what I'm doing. Doesn't matter what it is, I just STOP and take a few minutes to myself. If I'm at work, or out somewhere, I go sit in the bathroom for a few minutes. And I take a few breaths and just calm myself down.
Pressuring yourself to make it happen now could make it NOT happen now, so trying to relax and not focusing on it might be your best option. It's hard, and it stinks, but it works. I found that thinking of weird/silly stuff helps a lot. It gets my mind off of it, and makes me laugh a bit, which in turn relaxes me.
I don't know if that helps or not...let us know how it goes!
Anyway, I think that it is natural that you are feeling stressed, however, I think that we all have to have faith that we have gotten pg before, and we can get pg again. The thing I focus on is that I have to make sure that the act of TTC is done out of love and a desire to be intimate with my husband and not to act or make him feel as if he is only a sperm donor.
Good luck!