I am really sorry for the insensitive comments,some people need their head testing

My dad told me "Btw, I'm sorry you lost the baby but you have to agree this really wasn't the best time, you really have all you can handle." And my grandma was trying to be helpful and, when my husband was going out of town for a week, said "Aren't you glad now you didn't have the third?" Ummm, no, I'm not thanks though. I was hurt and mad but they just don't understand.

I think people are just so clueless as to how painful miscarriage is. If my father said that to me, I would look right at him and say, "How many miscarriages have you had again? Oh, that's right, NONE. How about you be a good parent and support me through my journey instead of criticizing me for it?" Actually, I probably would have also told him to STFU. I can put up with BS from other people, but no way I'm going to deal with it from my parents. :/

I'm so sorry. People say the most hurtful things and unfortunately just don't get it.

Yes, people just don't know what it is to feel this way. They can say things thinking we will feel better, but in the end it will only make matters worse. I was told "oh things happen for a reason" or "your body just wasn't used to it" like shut up! This was my first so of course it was new to my body, but to hear it, just makes me so upset! People who don't experience this will never get it! They'll never understand.

I'm sorry for your loss and thst you have to put up with that. I think no one can comprehend what your feeling. My mom is a very sensitive sweet person, and is the best person I know, and the other day she told me "I'm really sorry you miscarried, but isn't it nice that you get to spend so much time with your daughter?" Of course I'm grateful to be blessed with her, even more now that I've lost a child, but it hurt to think anyone could see a positive side to my miscarriage. People really are clueless.

I agree.....I don't understand why people feel that they need to put a positive spin to a miscarriage. Miscarriages suck....plain and simple. There is NO WAY to make any immediate positive results come out of one.....the negative simply outweighs any positives gained.

Extra time to spend with one child does not outweigh the negative of losing another child. An easier time dealing with the kids while hubby is out of town does not mean losing a child during a miscarriage is a freaking positive. I'd rather be exhausted down to the BONES with one extra kid while my husband is out of town working than have a miscarriage.

I'm so sorry that people think that they have to make you feel better in this kind of situation. They clearly have no idea what you are going through. Before my m/c, I wouldn't have understood either though. I hope that I wouldn't have said something so atrocious though.

my mother in law said to me because I had 2 and my sister in law had one"out of 4 possible babies only one happened" and" I didnt have any problems with pregnancy". Im like wow thats helpful. thanks

Some people are seriously so stupid! I know usually they mean well but I would much rather someone tell me they are sorry and they don't know what to say to me, instead of say something that is so ignorant. And on top of that with my dad, he and my mom had a miscarriage at 7 weeks about 11 years ago, so it's not even like he has NO idea whats going on. I mean obviously my husband and I are way more effected by our loss than he was by his but wow. I had a partial molar pregnancy, I had to have a DnC and weekly blood draws for months to make sure their was no tissue left, because if there was it could turn into uterine cancer! (with a COMPLETE molar pregnancy there is not baby at all just clucters of tumors and a placenta) I had a PARTIAL so I did have a baby, I saw him dancing around, heard his heartbeat and everything. And someone I know told me well at least it was a tumor and not a real baby! i just looked at them like did that really just some out of your mouth?! I think some people should really be born without the ability to speak. Or when people tell me, your young, at least you can live your life now without a baby in the way. I'm like.....WOW..... I rearraged my whole life to include a baby the second I saw two pink lines! That's what my life was, then it was ripped away from me! So no I'm sorry lossing my son is not a relief! I think so much worse than when someone says something dumb, is when they pretend like my baby never even exsited. I HATE THAT! it's like because he isn't here with us he suddenly never was there at all. I mean come on, we both know I was pregnant! They think since I miscarried, he simply was erased from our lives.Sorry to go on so long it's just some people really get to me.......

some people just need a sensitivity training. I think that unless we educate people on how we are feeling they arent going to know which leads to stupid comments.

My dad was never happy with the situation, me being only 15. But I figured since him and my step mom had lost their second baby together a couple months back, he would be the most understanding. We were in the car and he asked if I learned anything and I started naming things and he says "I know it's hard because you lost the baby but you should have never been pregnant in the first place and I hope you learn to keep your legs closed" My dads never implied I was a whore or anything but that made me feel like he thought I opened my legs to anyone who came around. Even though I got pregnant the second time I'd had sex and it was with the only guy I'd ever been with. I'm sorry for the way your dad is. I guess they just don't get it.

I'm sorry you have to put up with that. What annoys me the most is seeing or hearing all those ungrateful pregnant women out there complaining about their pregnancy all the damn time. Um, excuse me I would love to have a hurting back right now, I would love to have morning sickness, and every bad thing that comes with being pregnant, if it meant I could have my angel back :( The day I lst my pumpkin, A girl came over to "check on me" she's pregnant and she was talking about HER problems and how she can't wait to hold HER baby. It took every bit of strength I had left to not punch her right on the spot. People are so insensitive and have no idea what we're going through unless they've lived it as we have. I wish you the best.

I'm sorry for your loss and for the bs you've had to hear. I had a friend from college who was due a week after me. When I told her about my miscarriage she said... "Well it just wasn't your time to be a mommy". A month later I got an email asking for my address so I could get an invite to her baby shower. I was flabbergasted.
Turns out that my miscarriage was caused by PCOS and the doctor who discovered my loss told me that if I had tried to have a baby sooner then perhaps we could have caught the issue earlier and I would still have my baby. Are you effing kidding me? He then told me not to try again until I lost 50 lbs. Go to hell doc.