I can't share in this specific experience, but I wanted you to know I was thinking of you and what you are going through.

I have not lost a baby myself due to this but one of my friends did. Like any miscarriage, it was absolutely heartbreaking for her. However, she now has a five month old baby girl. There is hope. My heart breaks for you right now. When we miscarried a few weeks ago, we knew our baby had passed and then I had to wait three days for my body to miscarry naturally. This was my choice. Your situation is much more difficult. I cannot even begin to know how hard this must be for you. I will be praying for you. Big hugs to you.

Thank you for the support and nice thoughts, Juleshu and Catlover8. I think this support group will help me deal with this miscarriage in a different way than my first. I know what is coming, and I'm dreading it: The pain and anger and utter despair at times.

It's strange, though, I haven't really began that process yet. I know it's coming, but my baby is still there inside me. Knowing it won't be much longer is very hard, but for some reason my mind just doesn't go there--it's like it's just not prepared to do it yet. Every day brings it closer, though, and I know it's only a matter of time. I don't know if the waiting is worse than actually having to deal with the pain.

I too had to wait for my miscarriage. Two weeks almost exactly. It was absolute torture. I felt a sense of relief when the bleeding started, but then when it stopped I had this incredible feeling of emptiness and loneliness. I'm sorry you have to go through this. You'll be in my thoughts.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I lost a baby due to a very large subchorionic hematoma at 13 1/2 weeks last April. It was accompanied by very high fever so I think that I got very sick along with the hematoma. Needless to say, it was devastating and I still miss my sweet baby that I named Victoria.

I've heard that it can go either way with a subchorionic hematoma and that has been the case with me. I also had one, nearly the exact size (very big) with an earlier pregnancy and that baby survived and is now 5 years old.

My thoughts are with you and again I am so sorry that you are going through this. Hugs to you...

I know waiting is sooo hard! You're hoping and praying for a miracle, but dreading the worst at the same time. I will pray for a miracle for you!

I too lost my baby (4 months ago) at 14 weeks to what was deemed a subchorionic hemorrhage. I was bleeding off and on from week 6 on and every time I went to the doctor's even as the bleeding got progressively worse I was told not to worry. Then when I was 14 weeks I began to get labor like contractions and then had a miscarriage.

k9mommy:

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I just had a miscarriage over 2 weeks ago. I was only 3, almost 4 weeks pregnant when it happened. I can't believe that this is happening to you.

Do you have somebody to lean on while you go through this? That does help even when you feel so lonely and that nobody knows what you're going through.

I hope things get better for you. If you ever need to talk... this place is a wonderful resource.

Thank you for all the support, it's so nice to have people know what you are going through. I go out in the world and see all the happy pregnant women and women with their babies, and I feel like such an outsider.

Tomorrow is the day, I'll have an ultrasound and they'll check the heartbeat to see if it has completely stopped. Then it begins, that crushing pain that I wish I could forget. I have been trying to keep busy, but more and more that door to the dark room of grief starts to open. It's getting harder to slam it shut, and the time is coming to say goodbye.

I can't believe this is happening, it can't be real. I can't believe I am going through this again. Two years of trying, all the tests, just to lose another baby. I am wondering how women ever find the strength to try again, knowing what might happen. I am far from that time, but I just don't know if I'll be able to do it.

My husband has been very supportive, I think we learned a little bit about dealing with this since we went through it the first time. Back then he thought he should be strong for me, that ended up just making me feel like he wasn't as sad as I was and that he was distant. We know we need to do this together.

Also, last time our families knew because I needed to have surgery. They thought it was an ectopic pregnancy (but it wasn't). That made it harder, knowing everybody was looking at me and wondering how I was doing, discussing my reproductive health and if I would ever have kids. This time only my mom knows. She also had several miscarriages and difficulties but she has 3 healthy children now. Perhaps there is hope for me.

Well, time to carry on and make it through this day. Your support means so much to me and I know it will be of help and comfort to me during a very difficult time.