This weekend I was sad because I got my first period after trying to get pregnant again post miscarriage. I don't know if we all will ever be the same. I think all we can do right now is take things one day at a time. Right now I'm just trying to focus on myself and get ready to try again in a few weeks. I know that if I keep being stressed out it will not be easy to get pregnant. I'm also planning a trip that is in four weeks to give me something to look forward to besides trying to get pregnant. Another person I know did this too after they miscarried. Anniversaries I assume will be difficult. Thanksgiving is when I would have found out what I would have been having so I'm just trying to plan a lot for that week since I will be off work. I want to keep busy. I'm sending prayers your way Mrs. Chizzy!

I feel your pain there is no way to cope you just hope every day will get that little better so sorry

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. You too Shelly 676. I have had 4 AF since my mc, but only trying the past 2. This last one I felt as if my world was coming down, I thought I had done everything possible to conceive a baby with my DH, but didn't work. I cant imagine what it is like to have two mc, I continue to struggle with my one. I wish I could tell you how to cope with all this sadness, but I'm not sure myself. I understand the feeling of wanting your baby, wanting to experience all the milestones, everything and all! I hope that seeing your counselor is helping. Can you try other things to help take your mind of it for at least a few hours... crafting, painting, zumba, coffee with friends, movies, books, hobby lobby is always fun to look through :) Best wishes!

So sorry for your losses. I have found that this website has been extremely therapeutic, as well as writing. I keep a notebook, I'm currently still writing about the experience from beginning to the present. Almost as if though I was writing a letter to my child that they would would read when they were older. It lets me get my thoughts and emotions out, as well as me feeling like I am keeping the bond alive and strong between my angel and I. If writing doesn't seem like a fit to you, try music? That's some of the best therapy you can get, for cheap! Things that have been helpful to either myself or someone I know, poetry, crafting, yoga, painting, hiking, sports, just to name a few. I hope you find what works best for you! Good luck!

I also experienced 2 miscarriages in a row last year, about 6 months apart just like urself. Very painful and sad time for me and my husband. I understand ur pain.

I would suggest you get some basic testing done before you decide to try again. It's just a few blood tests, but i recommend you have them done.

The progesterone blood test, this is done 7 days before your expected period. Low levels of progesterone causes miscarriages especially in the early stages.

You can have blood tests to check for blood clotting. Blood becomes much thicker when ur pregnant, and clots can develop, and this leads to miscarriages.

You could also get ur thyriod check, as low thyriod levels causes problems too.

I know this is hard for you, but put ur energy into getting theses tests carried out and with healing urself. This will take time, and there is no time limit. You have been through a very heart breaking experience and you will heal in ur own time.

Try and keep extra busy and spend more time with friends, u will learn to smile again and enjoy life once again, and u will have ur bad days still, but there will be good days too.

Once again am sorry u have gone through this, try not to lose hope though, after going through 2 miscarriages am now pregnant again, and am 27 weeks, with my other 2 pregnancy i lost both before 10 weeks. Fingers crossed that all goes well. I get really scared, but i take 1 day at a time.

My friend who is only 27 had 3 miscarriages in a row, then had a little girl. and she did nothing differently, and was not taking any medication either, then she fell pregnant again and sadly had another miscarriage, so there is hope that u will have a healthy pregnancy, although at this time u may not agree as ur upset and very depressed still.

life is really cruel and am sorry you have been through this twice.

Am here if u need me, love Rach

I too am trying again but i do not know if i can handle it if I do not get pregnant or if i lose another baby. My heart would not be able to take it anymore, if i kept trying, is this selfish?the only thing getting me through this is god and my family, it is not easy,, i feel for ya

@Rach301 - I have had testing done, I had it done after the 2nd miscarriage so that I could see if there was anything preventable going on. There wasn't. Everything was normal, my husband's chromosomes are normal, mine are normal - we are normal. The first miscarriage came most likely due to a uterine septum I had, which I knew I had and didn't expect to be able to get pregnant. But then I did - surprise! I had surgery in Feb to fix that and then I got pregnant on the 2nd cycle after. This was the 2nd miscarriage I had in June. So far, I haven't been able to get pregnant again. This is our 4th month trying after the 2nd miscarriage.

jewelzie, I understand your fear. I have the same fear. On one hand, I want to give up because I am scared of going through another miscarriage. On the other hand, my heart can't handle the idea of never trying again. Then there is the fear of not being able to get pregnant again, even though the first 2 came pretty easily. It just sucks all the way around! We will never be able to experience that "innocence" of pregnancy and I resent that A LOT.