Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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peacejoylove 07/11/2013

Ladies, is it a ridiculous idea to shop for baby clothes, accessories for the angel babies I've had?
Just a couple of days ago, I realized we've picked presents for so many babies around us, but never had the opportunity to buy anything for our own. It pained me. And then I had a thought to buy an item of clothing, etc. for each of the three babies and keep them safe in a box or something to look at each time I missed them OR to use them all when I have a baby in the future (oh yes, I'm still hopeful despite all the pain in my heart).
Anyone done anything like that? Is it a crazy idea? Would you want to keep them all safe or use them in the future? Please share your thoughts on this.

deleted_user 07/11/2013

First, I am so sorry for your losses; I have def. thought that while having to be in the dreaded baby section after my miscarriage; that section gave me panic for a long time. I think that is a fine idea do whatever may bring you some sort of comfort which is hard to come by when it comes to miscarriage. So, I feel no idea is crazy if it will help you.

Mag333 07/11/2013

Well, in March, I had just found out I was having a girl at 18 weeks. That week I ordered a couple of outfits from Macy's online. Those were the first baby items I had bought for her. At week 19 I lost her. The outfits came in the mail, while I was in the hospital. I never opened the packages. I was feeling a little heartbroken that my Little One would never be able to wear them. They're still in the back of my dresser cabinet.

Maybe now if I add the outfits to her memory box, it'll be something special that was hers, and that I bought for just her. Still not sure what to do with them, but it may be comforting for you to buy something. Anything that helps you... is right for you.

peacejoylove 07/12/2013

Thank you for your replies, Kayleen86 and Mag333.

I shared this thought with DH and he didn't think it was too bad an idea, either!
We're pretty pressed on finances just now, so will have to wait for a while. But yes, I think I'd like to pick something for each of them to keep in a memory box or something.

PS: I hope in doing this, I'm not holding on to my babies when I should set them free and... Is this a move forward or backward?

peacejoylove 07/15/2013

So, we were at the mall on the weekend and I had told myself I was going to shop something for our angel babies, something small just to remember...and yes, make my heart feel good.
But when we were at the store and I saw mothers and babies all around me, I felt very pained as I recalled each of my losses.
DH then said that may be it wasn't such a good idea after all to buy anythin, as that would only make me feel more hurt that our babies are not with us!
So, I think I have decided not to buy anything for our angel babies. I may want to do something else in memory of them...

deleted_user 07/15/2013

One thing I liked was my charm bracelet hubby got me for Christmas. He picked out a charm to represent all the members in our family. It's nice to be able to wear it and for those that ask about my bracelet, an opportunity to talk about my sweet babies.

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