Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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lizzyog 10/23/2013

I'm just about 3 weeks out of my D&C after losing my baby. This was my first pregnancy, and we were so lucky to get pregnant right away. I heard my baby's heartbeat at 7 weeks and got to take home a perfect little picture of my peanut. Then my world came shattering down when I started cramping and spotting at 10 weeks. Although I was told everything was fine, I knew something just wasn't right. I finally made my husband take me in, and my worst fears came true...no heartbeat...and a very tiny baby...way too tiny for 10 weeks. I had a D&C performed 3 days before my 30th birthday...what a present, huh? They told me that I was in the 5% of unlucky women that miscarry after hearing a heartbeat, and that's what hurts so much...that my baby was alive and was growing and then just stopped. My heart aches all the time. My two best friends are pregnant. One was 2 weeks ahead and the other 4 weeks behind. I had to tell them this past weekend that it hurts too much to talk to and be near them right now and they had a hard time understanding. They are announcing their pregnancies and enjoying this beautiful time, and I am completely miserable. I'm so angry that I don't get to share in their joy, and life just seems so unfair right now. I cry quiet tears when I'm alone thinking of my little angel, and I pray every night that I begin to heal.

mrschizzy 10/24/2013

I know how you are feeling. I lost my baby last December at 9 weeks. I should have been 11 weeks when I found out that it had not grown any since 9 weeks and there was no longer a heartbeat. Like you, I had already seen all of that. We were devastated. It was also my first pregnancy....at 37 years old. Since then I got pregnant again only to lose that one in my 9th week, it only grew to be 6 weeks. Saw the heartbeat on that one too. I can totally relate to your sadness and anger. I am still grieving and very much feel the anger from time to time. It is a process and something we never quite get over, just learn to live with. My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope you can find a way to find peace and comfort. Just know you're not alone....this affects more people than we even realize. Peace....

tbbrandyn 10/25/2013

I am so sorry for your lose and I feel your pain. I have had two miscairrages a year part, same month just different days. Both times I heard the heart beats and I was being rushed to the er with bleeding and was told that I was losing my baby. I was sent home on bed rest to let "things take its course" as the doctors said. I didn't know what to do. it was hard on me with people I knew having babies and the lady next to me pregnant too. I have two angels with me right now, my 8 and 3 year old, have two wonderful angels in heaven looking over us and I pregnant with another angel right now (didn't know I would have anymore).
I feel your pain and just talk to us on here, we are your friends and extra family that you can talk to when you need someone to talk to. we are here for each other no matter what. I have can said that with being on this site for over 3 years and there has been so many people that have helped me. It will take time to heal and its a long process, and it wont be easy, but hang in there.

deleted_user 10/30/2013

I understand the feelings you have for your pregnant friends they should understand that you are happy for them but its too difficult for you to be around right now. I recently lost my best friend and find that without her infant son to tend to I'm feeling my loss soo much more

bgs4444 10/30/2013

I just came across this journal. I am so sorry. I, too, lost my baby after seeing it's heartbeat. I was 6w6d. today makes three weeks exactly. I know your pain and I am sorry for it. it isn't fair. and it is SO hard to be around people we love who are pregnant. but you have to be kind and fair to yourself. and if right now you can't be around your friends - it's awful, but you have to do what is best for you. We will heal. I know we will. it's a daily process of some steps forward, some steps back. Private message me if you want to talk some more. xoxox

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