Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Sadly no, I am not pregnant....
I had a long discussion with my mother, who has this whole time blocked out the FACT that I had 3 miscarriages. I told her that it was time for something to give, I am tired of walking around feeling this pain on my own. I sat down and pointed to a picture of my nephew and said, "Think about Alex mother, they would have just as much your grandbabies as he is. You can't tell me that you wouldn't have loved them as much as you love him and that you don't feel some sort of something for the fact you never met them." I cried out to her and for the first time she, acknowledged my pain for them. She acknowledged that they were real and that I have gone through the loss of her grandchildren for 5 years. She said "I am sorry that I have different views on things, I kept thinking if no one agreed with you that somehow you would forget they ever happened. I have always felt bad for the fact and have always prayed that you marry a nice man and he gives you 3 beautiful healthy babies to replace them." I let her know that I didn't need replacements, yes I want to at least have one healthy living baby, but they could never be replaced.
Today was step two, even though it was so painful and had to start out as tiff with my mother, in the path of my healing. I have needed someone close to me, not doctors or Stephen and his family, but someone in my family or a friend (which I have very little close ones) to just tell me that they know that I am in pain and I don't just cry over spilled milk.
I wanted to tell everyone that and I also wanted to say that step one was coming here and reading all of the stories that you have all shared and the advice that you have all given.
AND... I get a second chance at seeing a counselor and a psychiatrist the 15ht of July, maybe they can put me on something to help me sleep and cope a little. HUGS and THANK YOUS to everyone!
I had a long discussion with my mother, who has this whole time blocked out the FACT that I had 3 miscarriages. I told her that it was time for something to give, I am tired of walking around feeling this pain on my own. I sat down and pointed to a picture of my nephew and said, "Think about Alex mother, they would have just as much your grandbabies as he is. You can't tell me that you wouldn't have loved them as much as you love him and that you don't feel some sort of something for the fact you never met them." I cried out to her and for the first time she, acknowledged my pain for them. She acknowledged that they were real and that I have gone through the loss of her grandchildren for 5 years. She said "I am sorry that I have different views on things, I kept thinking if no one agreed with you that somehow you would forget they ever happened. I have always felt bad for the fact and have always prayed that you marry a nice man and he gives you 3 beautiful healthy babies to replace them." I let her know that I didn't need replacements, yes I want to at least have one healthy living baby, but they could never be replaced.
Today was step two, even though it was so painful and had to start out as tiff with my mother, in the path of my healing. I have needed someone close to me, not doctors or Stephen and his family, but someone in my family or a friend (which I have very little close ones) to just tell me that they know that I am in pain and I don't just cry over spilled milk.
I wanted to tell everyone that and I also wanted to say that step one was coming here and reading all of the stories that you have all shared and the advice that you have all given.
AND... I get a second chance at seeing a counselor and a psychiatrist the 15ht of July, maybe they can put me on something to help me sleep and cope a little. HUGS and THANK YOUS to everyone!
That is wonderful that you guys worked it out. And I understand how you feel we need the people around us to understand. Good luck and God bless on your July 15th appointment.
I think it's great that you really stuck to your guns and emphasized that you do not want 'replacements' or to forget it ever happened. That would be an insult to all you have gone through. Those were real and valid losses that you experienced, they are your babies.
You are a hero for all the mothers out there who are being told to forget their pain and loss.
You rock! :)
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It's gonna take some time, but that pain will always be there.
I'm so thankful for this group. It's hard to talk to people that can't put themselves in my shoes.
My3blessings.
I am not sure if you were talking to be about holding one of my angels, but I never went full term on any of my 3 pregnancies. I only got to the point of knowing I was and having a doctor confirm it and then them tell me in a week or two they'd give me the ultrasound appointment. I was using a small clinic because at the time I didn't make much money, and due to their volume of patients it took longer for me to get seen again.
I do however know that when I get to heaven I will get to see all three of them and hold them and be with them in peace and happiness.
I am hoping that once I get my new job going that I can talk the fiance into getting married so that after I get my emotional stress and financial stress down to a minimum... I can start TTC and do it right! (and boy do I hope it's soon, I won't even mind the morning sickness!)
Bless you all!
Thank you all again,
*Britanie*