Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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no1totalk2 11/26/2011

After talking to my therapist and reading some other posts from other forums I see people here don't like people who lie. I haven't lied I just haven't shared all of my history mainly because I'm a very private and guarded person. I have had a total of 10 miscarriages I have 4 living children and my husband and I are expecting again. From the day we married we have always wanted a large family. Not like the Duggars though we want 6. I come from a large family myself I have 10 siblings and my husband has four including him. We both have well paying jobs and we can fianacially afford to have a large family. I don't like being judged as I don't judge other people. I hope all who know me on here are upset as I didn't want people to say why are you still trying to have more after all that I've been through, why not cherish the ones I have. And I do I love them for all the world and wouldn't change any of them they are all amazing in their own ways.
My thoughts and prayers are with all you ladies. If you guys have questions I am more than willing to answer them.

deleted_user 11/27/2011

I'm sorry if some people have not been kind to you. I can't imagine having 10 miscarriages. I want a large family as well. I have 1 living child and we want 4. We aren't sure we can financially afford 4, and if we can't then we will stop. If you can provide for your children, I say keep going. More love to share.

Elliepp 11/27/2011

A support group is supposed to be just that...supporting. I am sorry to hear that people have been rude. I too am very guarded and private. Just knowing others are experiencing the same thing is helpful. Whether you Had one miscarriage or ten the feelings of sadness, loss and fear are very much the same. Don't let people judge you. Good luck with your current pregnancy.

deleted_user 11/27/2011

Just because somebody hasn't been through something themselves doesn't make it a lie.

I 'm really sorry for your sad losses to have endured so many times. I'm glad you have had four successful though and I wish you the best with this one too. Seems like your family is very fertile.

You don't have to prove your pain to anybody else.

All the best.

no1totalk2 11/27/2011

Thanks everyone for your support. I love having so many siblings. Growing up I was never bored I always had some to play with. And I want the same for my kids. Ashley0126 I'm sure if you guys have the love to share then you will find away to afford the 4 wonderful children you guys want. Elliepp yes I was raised to be that way my parents are very private people and for guarded I'm that way because before I meant my husband I had dated a guy for 4 years and found out he was cheating and I never wanted to be hurt like that again. I try real hard not to listen to the people who want to judge me I think like this you don't know my fianacncial state you don't know any of my personal info so why would you judge you ain't god it what I say to people. CloviaBel thanks for your support it means alot ya my family is pretty fertile for the most part. So far everything looks good with this pregnancy my husband won't let me do anything but sit and play with the kids I think he thinks I might break if I do anything lol its so cute. He asked me to take the next few months off work so I can breast. I can't just stop working and stay home I would lose my mind I have always worked. And besides I'm waiting for some closing on a few properties si I can't til I finish those but I do plan to cut my hours back. Thanks again everyone. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Sending out baby dust for you ladies.

deleted_user 11/28/2011

I'm so sorry that people have been rude to you. I am new to this site and that was my biggest hesitation on joining an online support group, for fear of being judged. I pray for strength and peace for you, as well as a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery of your bundle of joy! As Elliepp said, I feel a support group is suppose to be just that...SUPPORTIVE! I recently had my first mc with my first pregnancy after battling infertility for 4 years. I have always wanted to be a mother and I prayed and prayed for my Noah. Our prayers were answered, just not the way we were expecting them to be. Noah Elliott was silently born on Sept. 26th, 2011 at 9:10am. He was 7 inches long and weighed 5 ounces, and he was the most BEAUTIFUL thing I've ever seen. I wanted to join a group where others understood me (as a mother) and how I am feeling...it feels like a big black hole. So, I can understand how it would be very hurtful for people to be rude, when you are just reaching out for words of encouragment. Sorry for the rambling, I hope all goes well with this pregnancy! Good luck and God bless!

deleted_user 11/28/2011

i am so sorry for your losses. It breaks my heart. I know the feeling, I have had 2 miscarriages.. 1st one 5-19-04 and 2nd on 10-19-11..and i as well have 2 living kids. Both little girls. Haylee my oldest is 4 and my other child her name is Maleah and she is 15months today..And when someone tell me y keep tryin and cherish the ones u have i do cherish them more than anything and i love them more than anything, but when they say that to me i just want to knock them out...ugh....I am so sorry if ppl have not been nice..I am always here to talk...Sending prayers ur way!

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