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So my ex has been texting me trying to get me to do a "friend with benefits" thing despite knowing I'm married...
He's actually the reason I'm with my husband. I thought I was pregnant and when I told him he bailed... My husband worked with me and could tell I was upset, and bugged me about it until I confessed what was going on.... He bought me the pregnancy test and was there by my side, knowing I was possibly pregnant by another man...
Anyways, I wasn't pregnant... Even though my husband and I did get pregnant the first time a few weeks after this happened... We started dating like the day he bought me the test.... I know that's really soon, but we both wanted a family & we ended up miscarrying that baby...
So now my ex is texting me again.... And I find out that he is with some girl named Carolyn... I'm debating messaging her on facebook and telling her what's going on... Should I tell her or should I let it be?
He's actually the reason I'm with my husband. I thought I was pregnant and when I told him he bailed... My husband worked with me and could tell I was upset, and bugged me about it until I confessed what was going on.... He bought me the pregnancy test and was there by my side, knowing I was possibly pregnant by another man...
Anyways, I wasn't pregnant... Even though my husband and I did get pregnant the first time a few weeks after this happened... We started dating like the day he bought me the test.... I know that's really soon, but we both wanted a family & we ended up miscarrying that baby...
So now my ex is texting me again.... And I find out that he is with some girl named Carolyn... I'm debating messaging her on facebook and telling her what's going on... Should I tell her or should I let it be?
deleted_user
UGH!! Shady guys are the worst. Im not sure what I would do in that situation. On the one hand, I would just want to ignore him, and be done with it, since you are happy now. On the other, i would feel bad for the girl he is with now, and want to let her know...its so hard to know what to do in those situations...I hope it works out whichever you decide--im sorry i wasn't more help...
deleted_user
Telling the other girl is going to hurt her and she's not going to be thanking you...she's going to blame you. In her life story you'll be the homewrecking harlot...(ok keeping it PG to keep the sensors happy). It won't matter to her that you're trying to save her. And in his life story you'll be the psycho ex who went behind his back to talk to his new girl. Just remind him that you're happily married and satisfied and say goodbye and tell him not to contact you again. If you have to get a new number, then do. And don't tie it in to facebook. Unfriend him on facebook if you're friends and just put him on ignore. And tell your husband what's going on and what steps you've taken so that he's aware of the situation. If your ex continues to text after you've told him to stop, you can file harassment on him (depending on the state of course).
deleted_user
Yeah I think ignore him, and let her find out in her own time to no more stress bounces back on you, trust me.....Kloe's right it could all backfire on you and you don't need that hun xoxox
Elliepp
Delete his number and don't look back. You are married to someone who has supported you and loves you, not an ex who wants to use you. Telling the other girl will only hurt you in the long run and if your husband knows what is going on and that you are speaking to her or even answering the ex's text he will start to lose trust in you. Its a new year...move forward not backwards. Good luck!
deleted_user
Change your number!!! That's the best thing to do in your position. As far as the girl, I would advise you not to say anything to her. Many females don't react the way we think they would and somehow she will find a way to blame you just as Kloe said you'll become the home wrecker although you had her best interest at heart! Remove yourself from the situation to save yourself...
deleted_user
Ignore the ex. He is trying to cause trouble. Delete his phone # and even block it if you can. Nobody needs that BS in their life. Telling the other girl will only cause problems. She will find out soon enough on her own I'm sure.
Fallen1991
I blocked his number and my husband knows already and he's fine. I let him read all the texts anyway, so he knows what was said. And as far as the other girl, i'm letting it be. She'll figure it out.
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