Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Well, I kicked my husband out of the house today and I guess you could say we are separated because I have no intention of contacting him again.
I heard him to tell me to "snap out of it" and "get over it" just one too many times for me to tolerate him any more. It has only been 8 days since we learned that our baby is dead inside of me and for some reason he cannot understand why I am finding it difficult to cope with my daily activities without crying and needing constant breaks.
If anyone else has has had their marriage destroyed due to their miscarriage, please share your thoughts. If you were able to get back together again, I would be very interested in learning how.
I guess I am just now learning who my husband really is and he is someone who has no ability to be there for me when times are hard. I wish I had known this a long time agao so I did not build a family with this man and have hopes of continuing to grow the family until we experienced this terrible loss.
I heard him to tell me to "snap out of it" and "get over it" just one too many times for me to tolerate him any more. It has only been 8 days since we learned that our baby is dead inside of me and for some reason he cannot understand why I am finding it difficult to cope with my daily activities without crying and needing constant breaks.
If anyone else has has had their marriage destroyed due to their miscarriage, please share your thoughts. If you were able to get back together again, I would be very interested in learning how.
I guess I am just now learning who my husband really is and he is someone who has no ability to be there for me when times are hard. I wish I had known this a long time agao so I did not build a family with this man and have hopes of continuing to grow the family until we experienced this terrible loss.
Men do not grieve the same way women do and some of them also don't understand how close a woman is to her child during pregnancy. For a lot of men, having a child is not "real" until the child is born, so they do not have the same feelings we do when we loose a pregnancy.
Your husband is probably grieving himself and he doesn't know what to do about it so he is trying to move on quickly. He also can't help you feel better and doesn't know how to "fix" what has happened and this causes all sorts of turmoil inside of him.
((HUGS))
I am not sure he is able to be emotionally supportive since this is the first time something horrible has come to pass in the 13 years that we have been together. It will be telling to see if he has the capacity to be there for me the way I need him to.
I have been experiencing some spotting today combined with my usual crampy pain. I am hoping that this is the beginning of a natural loss since I want to avoid having to go to my D & C on Monday if my body can do this on its own.
My husband acted calously after my first couple of miscarriages -- all the while claiming that the miscarriage "didn't affect" him like they did me. I came to realize that his cold reactions WERE reactions to the miscarriages. They affected him, too, and he wasn't handling his emotions well (he wasn't even acknowledging them).
Believe me, there were a few times I wanted to leave him. I did leave once, just going to a hotel for the night .... then, in the morning, I came home and yelled like heck at him. This stuff is HARD to go through.
I definitely recommend couples counseling.