I am so sorry and so sad for you. I know your hurt and I understand not wanting to go through that again. I wish I had wise words, but I don't. Just know you are being prayed for and you are not alone. I am sorry for your loss.

Life is definitely unfair.
I know plenty of people including my mother that should not have kids and definitely dont deserve them.
And I also know a lot of good people that are over-qualified even but cant have children

I am so sorry to hear that, if you don't mind I am going to pray for you. My aunt is the woman that I know who had miscarriages, it took her 10 years to finally have her little boy. You can't give up, but you can give yourself a rest. She always told me that the reason she thinks she finally was able to carry was that she stopped wanting it so bad and took time for herself. I have a hard time listening to her advice because she doesn't know how to talk to me about the loss just the trying for another. She told me that her and her husband stopped thinking of making love as making a baby and started being more like they were when they were a happy couple of just themselves. I don't know if it helps, because sometimes it makes me smile when she tells me that and gives me a ray of hope and sometimes it just makes me want to tell her I AM NOT YOU. (only because she was one of the first ones to tell me that my miscarriages were for the best, even after having 4 of her own)
So I think what I am saying is... you need a good pampering a good time to relax and look into the sunshine and feel how wonderful of a person you are and that YOU WILL be a mommy.

P.S. Nope, it's not fair... it sucks.. I hate it.
I watch women in my family that are on drugs carry their babies full term and then get them taking away by social workers. I think... God, why couldn't you have given me that baby?

You. Didn't. Do. Anything. Wrong.
Often times there is no answer. It SUCKS. It's not fair. I'm in the same boat - I took care of myself, was getting healthy and I had a loss. My cousin has 4 children by 4 different men and drank and did drugs through 3 of the pregnancies. 3 of those babies were born between 30 and 35 weeks and she complained that she went full term with the last baby and it was 7 lbs.
Some people don't deserve to have children (see example above). Some people do (look in the mirror). You'll get your chance.
Is this your first?

I am so sorry...your story makes me sad. I know it is not fair. Please remember that this is NOT your fault. You did everything you could. Continue to take care of yourself. You are not alone. I wish I had some magic potion to make it better. The truth is you will hurt and be sad. Let yourself be sad, let yourself cry, and talk about it with people who will support you and listen to you. Take time to grieve. Let me know if you want to talk more. Hugs.

No this was my 3rd I have children my last 1 was full term and she weighted 10lb 7oz I had 2pre term babies before my last I was thrilled to go full term yes I was very miserable but happy she was healthy and thrilled she got to come home with me. After I had my last full term baby I developed an infection in my uterus so the Dr. thinks that may be why I'm not able to carry another baby. They told me before i wouldnt have another baby but I did and I wanted to prove them wrong again. Maybe we will try again I want to wait at least a year. I'm feeling a little better my husband and I cryed last night and we have had lots of family and friends over so the busy house has had me preoccupied. Thanks to everyone who has been supportive I really appreciate it so very much.

Hi,

I'm so sorry. I lost mine on 5/13 and that's all I could think of all these stories I heard of where people's mother's drank and smoked the entire time they were pregnant and delivered healthy babies. It mad me so mad!!!! Like what the heck. I read every baby/preg. book I could find I was eating right, pre-natal vitamins, etc. and my baby dies.

There is really nothing to say except that you are not alone and I feel/felt the same way.