Miscarriage Support Group

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I don't know how to feel

sleepystar24
sleepystar24
I just lost my baby at only 9 weeks along. It's my second miscarriage I'm the last 7 months. I was told that I couldn't even get pregnant and here I was twice but... My first made it to only 5weeks and my heart was so broken. My boyfriend pulled me from my despair and I ended up pregnant again. I was terrified the whole time. The stress of losing my breakup didnt help. I was so hopeful that this one would make it. I never even got to hear its little heartbeat.
I feel like I've gone numb to everything. Very few people know about what's happened.
I don't know what to do... All I've ever wanted was to be a mother.
Does this hurt ease?
peacejoylove
peacejoylove
hey sleepystar24! ((huggss))
Now, going thru 1 mc is bad enough, going thru anudr right after... is devastating! You are in a painful place and all I can say is go easy on ur self...take time off ur usual routine and allow ur self to mourn the loss/es... seek medical help....investigate cause of mcs, if u want to and feel ready for....
DS is the right place to start ur healing journey. We've all been thru it, and though it never does fully go away, it does start to get somewhat better...with time!
Take care of u dear....
deleted_user
deleted_user
The pain does get better. Its been almost 2 years since I miscarried with my first. People kept telling me that in time the pain will ease and it wasn't in God's time. I hated hearing those 2 phrases. I was like "You don't understand." The pain was so unbearable. Especially since my husband and I had been trying for like 4 years. The pain has eased and occasionally I will have my moments, but its not as bad. So what you are feeling is totally normal. Take time to grieve and remember that your little ones will always be with you.
sleepystar24
sleepystar24
Thank you, both of you.
I've pulled away from a lot of things and people right now but I just can't keep faking that I'm ok. I lock it all away when I have no choice but to be around people. But it's like the moment I'm alone the flood gates open. I just want my sweet baby back. Valentines day is forever changed in my eyes.