Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Hello,
my name is Sharon and i found this site early this morning as I couldn't sleep due to painful cramps from a miscarriage that I am going through right now. My husband and I went to the ER yesterday when I woke up with some heavy bleeding and clotting. I was very upset... as we were getting the US the woman said she couldn't tell us the results but they would when they got us back to the ER. I knew looking at the screen that there was no movement. We had been able to see a heartbeat a week and half earlier which measured the baby at 6 weeks. The results yesterday showed no cardiac movement along with still measuring at 6 weeks. I am thankful to have such a supportive husband, family, and friends. I keep going through all sorts of emotions and hard to communicate them with anyone. We were so excite to be pregnant. It was a pleasant surprise in that it happened a few months sooner than we had expected. I feel silly for telling some family and friends that we were expecting and when I got the news I felt the need to tell all of them right away to help me start to get over it as a soon as possible. Almost as if they new sooner the sooner I wouldn't be living a "lie" :( that is a terrible way to think about it I know but I just didn't want people asking me about it and having to explain over and over again.
Sorry this is all over the place with my thoughts just need to get it out somewhere.
Now, I feel terrible that I want it to be out of me as soon as possible. Having these cramps and bleeding are just constant reminders that he/she isn't there anymore. I am going to my Dr. later this morning to talk to him about my options. Is it terrible of me to feel this way? I am hoping that the sooner the physical pain is gone I can start to get back to "normal" routine and hopefully starting to try again as soon as possible. I have wanted to be a mom for as long as i can remember and all my friends have/having children and it is really difficult to think about not being one in March when this one was due. My husband is very supportive and is assured that we will be abel to get pregnant quickly and I am really trying to remain positive but i don't know..... .
I am sorry for the ranting but feels better to get some of my feeling out in a place that others (unfortunately) have gone through the same thing.
does anyone have advice on continuing with a natural miscarriage, medicine, or a D&C?
any advice on how to get through this is greatly appreciated
thank you
Sharon
my name is Sharon and i found this site early this morning as I couldn't sleep due to painful cramps from a miscarriage that I am going through right now. My husband and I went to the ER yesterday when I woke up with some heavy bleeding and clotting. I was very upset... as we were getting the US the woman said she couldn't tell us the results but they would when they got us back to the ER. I knew looking at the screen that there was no movement. We had been able to see a heartbeat a week and half earlier which measured the baby at 6 weeks. The results yesterday showed no cardiac movement along with still measuring at 6 weeks. I am thankful to have such a supportive husband, family, and friends. I keep going through all sorts of emotions and hard to communicate them with anyone. We were so excite to be pregnant. It was a pleasant surprise in that it happened a few months sooner than we had expected. I feel silly for telling some family and friends that we were expecting and when I got the news I felt the need to tell all of them right away to help me start to get over it as a soon as possible. Almost as if they new sooner the sooner I wouldn't be living a "lie" :( that is a terrible way to think about it I know but I just didn't want people asking me about it and having to explain over and over again.
Sorry this is all over the place with my thoughts just need to get it out somewhere.
Now, I feel terrible that I want it to be out of me as soon as possible. Having these cramps and bleeding are just constant reminders that he/she isn't there anymore. I am going to my Dr. later this morning to talk to him about my options. Is it terrible of me to feel this way? I am hoping that the sooner the physical pain is gone I can start to get back to "normal" routine and hopefully starting to try again as soon as possible. I have wanted to be a mom for as long as i can remember and all my friends have/having children and it is really difficult to think about not being one in March when this one was due. My husband is very supportive and is assured that we will be abel to get pregnant quickly and I am really trying to remain positive but i don't know..... .
I am sorry for the ranting but feels better to get some of my feeling out in a place that others (unfortunately) have gone through the same thing.
does anyone have advice on continuing with a natural miscarriage, medicine, or a D&C?
any advice on how to get through this is greatly appreciated
thank you
Sharon
Thinking of you
S
My friend had 2 miscarriages, with one she miscarried naturally and the other she did a D & C. She did say with miscarrying naturally she was able to get back to her normal menstrual cycle quicker but the hormone fluctuations weremore noticeable. I was able to get a period almost exactly a month after I miscarried. I did have some serious mood swings though. With a D & C mostly everything is cleaned out and there is minimal bleeding but your body may take longer to get back to normal.
It is awesome that you have a wonderful husband and supportive family and friends!
I had was able to miscarry the baby naturally; however, I still went through with the D&C... With no real answers of which would help me recover more quickly. I knew there was the possibility of bleeding g with either but more people reported less amount of time with the d&c ... I just hated bleeding knowing that that was still apart of my pregnancy and wanted it all out ASAP. My dr scoped my uterus and said everything looked healthy ( which was another reason I choose it) to give me a little piece of mind that everything there was ok. I wish there were better answers out there but the human bodies are all so different and understand there can't be. The same path for everyone. I hope I made the right decision to get my body back on track to have a normal cycle as soon as possible as we would like to start trying when it is ok :)
I wish you all the best!
Xo
S