Miscarriage Support Group

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Due Date November 30th

Dawnee222
Dawnee222
I know we come across this topic a lot, and I had no idea how it was going to affect me, but now as the days are drawing nearer it's getting more difficult and I just need to vent. I had my miscarriage May 21st at 12 weeks and my due date would have been this Sunday. On top of that, my birthday is Tuesday, December 2nd. I'm turning 35 and it's just another reminder of how old I'm getting and not able to get pregnant. We've been trying ever since with no luck. For two weeks now I just can't get it out of my mind. I mean the thoughts consume me and I can't make them stop. The "what if's" and the "would could have beens." I've been doing pretty well the last 3 months, or so I thought, but right now I'm just so sad. My girlfriends were trying to plan this big shin dig this Saturday to celebrate my birthday, something they do every year which I love, but I'm just not into it. I just can't see myself trying to enjoy something I clearly won't. I don't want to stay home and drown in my sadness but how I can go out and have a good time? It's so frustrating. I just thought by now I'd for sure be pregnant. I've even put off doing or scheduling certain things for that reason which now I know, I can't do anymore. I'm so sad.

Not to go on and on, but this past week, my co-worker just announced to everyone that she's pregnant, again. She just had a baby 6 months ago and they were going to wait at least over a year but this was an "oops". They are very happy and I'm happy for them, but I'm also so angry. Angry that it can't be me. I know this is normal and I know with time it'll subside, but again, I'm just venting. Thanks for listening.

Hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving or better yet, something "extra" to be thankful for:)

Dawn
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Hi Dawn...I'm so sorry about your loss and I know how sad it can feel around your due date. I just today experienced my second miscarriage. I also know how hard it is to watch others seem to conceive and carry full term babies with such ease. Miscarriage is not even a second thought. It's difficult not to feel angry or jealous. Just know that you're not alone and I think it's totally healthy to feel how you're feeling! Wishing you the best of luck!
Meg
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Hi Dawn, I know where you are coming from because my due date is fast approching. It's December 15th. I also have two men in my office whose wives just had their babies. Although, I'm happy they have healthy babies, I can't help but feel angry and jealous, followed by embarrassment because that's not the type of person I usually am. Anyway, I hope you can go out for your birthday celebration. It sounds like you need to relax a little. I know it's hard, but it can help.
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Hi Dawn, I can totally relate to how you are feeling. At first there were 3 of us in our family that announced of our pregnancy. My cousin was 8 weeks, I was 7weeks, my sis in law was 4 weeks. My sis in law had a miscarry a day before i did. My cousin is the only one left. I am very happy and excited for them. At the same time, I feel jealous. What i do is, i just pray and pray for them. I talk to her often and texts her all the time. We used to talk about our symptoms and stuff. I miss that. Anyway, Good Luck to you and Have Faith. We have to stay strong.
lvnikita
lvnikita
Due dates are hard. I have passed my two due dates but am coming up on the day that I delivered my twins too early. I am just planning on keeping myself busy and doing something to honor them. I know it is very difficult when someone announces a pregnancy and how they mean to get pregnant. The same thing happened to me right after my second loss, my brother and his wife forgot to buy birth control... It is enough to drive one crazy! Hang in there and you can vent anytime you need to!
Dawnee222
Dawnee222
Thanks everyone for your comments. It absolutely makes me feel better. Thank you!! I had a conversation with DH last night because I kinda lost it and he coddled me and made me feel better as well. I actually think I'm going to at least go to dinner Saturday to celebrate my birthday and Sunday I think I will take a few moments to honor my dear angel, probably light a candle and say a prayer. As far as my co-worker, today I walked in and felt angry again but as soon as I got to my desk I felt so guilty. It's terrible because I'm not that person either. I really hope that anger will go away. Better yet maybe I will get pregnant soon and her and I can be pregnant together. If not, well, I'm really hoping I get the jealousy out of my mind. Thanks again everyone! Happy Thanksgiving to you all as well.

Dawn
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I too had my 35th bday close to my first due date. You can't help but think I am getting too old to carry or carry a healthy baby. I didn't really celebrate my bday. It was on Halloween so we concentrated on that. I told my family beforehand that I didn't want to celebrate it and they understood and went with my wishes. No gifts or cake. This holiday is hard for me also. Living each day as it comes is how I get by and sometimes I have to go by the hour. Hang in there.
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