aww, i'm so sorry. that's very difficult. do they know about what you are going through? if not... even though it's terrible, i would at least tell the one who wants you to throw her a shower what you have been through. no one in their right mind would ever ask you to throw a shower after losing your baby.

for the ones who keep showing pics of their babies or bumps or whatever... just hide them on your news feed until you can deal with them. (you just have to x them out, they don't know) i have hidden a bunch of people for this reason. i can't deal with seeing their healthy babies and hearing them complain about no sleep right now.... one day in the future i will be able to handle it, but now is not the time.

praying for your strength.

I had a close friend who was due the same week as me, and knew about the MC. She called me after her 12 week us - the first call since she found out I had miscarried. She then invited me to her shower last week over Facebook!!! All the while having yet to say "im sorry" or acknowledge the mc. I couldn't believe it- people are amazing. I could go on... Good for you for deleting fb- I should do the same!

Yeah she knows what im dealibg with shes my bff one of the few ppl I told.

how could she ask you that if she knows what you are going through?

sammc1 - that is awful, i'm so sorry.

what the heck is wrong with people? i'm so blessed to have friends and coworkers who understand that even though my baby never saw the light of day, i just lost my first child. no one would ever nonchalantly ask me to do anything related to their pregnancy right now. that is just insane. in fact, i usually buy the baby gifts for people at work and i just delegated the task for the next one to someone else... i just can't handle it right now. it was completely understood.

i'm so sorry you have to deal with this kind of ignorance. these people obviously don't understand the magnitude of what you are going through. i doubt they mean any harm, but i think it's ok to tell them you can't deal with this right now.

ugh, i'm so sorry.

I feel your pain honey, my mom undertook my best friends baby shower recently, she got pregnant weeks after I lost my son.... I tried to put on my smile and do what I could, as this new baby is my god daughter, but it is hard!! Keep your chin up darling.