Miscarriage Support Group

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coworkers....... :(

Fallen1991
Fallen1991
so two months before I got pregnant, me and a female coworker tested together. I was a few days late (ended up starting the next day). her test was positive, and mine was negative.... i tried to be happy for her but I just couldn't be. Then I got pregnant and lost my baby just two weeks of finding out....... Had I not miscarried, today I would be 12 weeks and 1 day. A guy I work with posted ultrasound pictures on his facebook today. His girl is 12 weeks 2 days today....... I couldn't help but think "That should have been us posting our 12 week ultrasound pics........" I can't help but be upset about it. I mean, the pregnancies would have been so close together..... Now every step of the way for him, I'm going to get my heart broken. I want to be happy. He's a great guy and will make a great dad. He's so excited about the baby... But now every time I hear him talk about it or see what he posts about the baby on facebook, I'm going to be reminded of it.......... And the girl I work with is going on 6 months, and is really starting to show......... She also posted pictures on facebook today.... I'm looking for another job. I don't think I can handle being around them during their pregnancies......... I know that probably sounds bad.... But I honestly don't know how to deal with this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Luckily for me, I was unemployed when I miscarried so it made it easier not to have to fake a smile....I laid in bed for days...didn't even want to shower or eat. I was severely depressed. Not having to go to work and face anything at the time was a life saver. So I know what you're going through...you just want to distance yourself from it. Be as FAR away as possible and not be reminded. I think the best thing to do would be to just stay away from facebook until you heal a little more....just go away temporarily and then when you're ready go back.... I deleted my account for that same reason. I was sick and tired of seeing everyones baby bumps and baby pics and baby rooms and sonograms and mothers day wishes....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry. Its totally normal to feel that way. Its not that you wish bad for them, but your hurting for yourself. Totally understandable. I had 4 or so women on my Facebook acct. that were going to be due, either the same month as I was, or shortly after. I also have one really good friend, who is due in July. I deleted my Facebook account for 2 or 3 weeks after we lost Caleb. I just couldnt deal with it. I just wanted to hide in a hole and not come out. I wrapped myself in my husband and son, and wanted nothing to do with anyone else.

After those 3 weeks I got back online, deleted a ton of people from my "friends list" and then hid all the postings from my good friend who is dues soon. I just cant take it. I'm happy for them, and want their babies to be healthy and happy, but I dont want to see it all the time.

So you do what you need to do. If that means finding a new job or shutting down your account, then do it. You know whats right for you, and you should not feel bad about it at all. Love and hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
luckily there wasnt any pregnant coworkers when i miscarried at almost 9 weeks, but i worked at a daycare. and being around babies and small kids all day long killed me inside. i miscarried over the weekend and only my supervisor knew i was pregnant...i told her i was pretty sure before i even took the test. and i came back to work that monday and told her what happened and broke down. that was over a year ago and i still struggle with my loss. i havent been to a baby shower since. i cringe every time someone i know announces a pregnancy, or posts ultrasound picures. i should have a 7 1/2 month old baby, but instead all i have is empty arms and a broken heart. everyone heals differently, and as hard as it is to hear and accept, there is going to be pregnant women everywhere you turn. I would try to stay away from facebook for awhile, at least for now. I know the feelings you are talking about, and i understand the hurt you feel. We have felt that same pain. I am here if you need to talk. *HUGS*
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with the others - I think you do what you need to do sometimes to protect yourself and insulate yourself. Staying away from Facebook for awhile helped me too. After my last miscarriage my best friend asked me to dinner with other women. Before I agreed to go I asked if there would be any pregnant women, babies or anyone talking about babies in the group. There wasn't and so I did go. Sometimes you can't control a situation (I was in the grocery store last week surrounded by babies and pregnant women), so you just cope and get through it the best you can(and as fast as possible for me.)
I have a pregnant co-worker who is delivering very soon, and we got pregnant at that same time. I can't leave my job, so when I need to, I will get up and walk away from her or take a break from the office altogether. Keeping very busy also helps.
I'm so sorry that you're struggling with this. You're definitely not alone and I hope our support makes you feel a little better. Hang in there and do what you need to do to be happy.