I'm sorry you are scared - you aren't alone - my periods have been heavier since I miscarried. My pms symptoms are also more intense, makes me think I'm pregnant, when I'm not.

From what I understand they use the pill for MANY things, regulating periods, transitioning to menopause, regulating/transitioning hormones.

I had a friend that would take it in between her IF treatments and I believe she took it after her miscarriage. She has gone on to get pregnant and have a healthy girl. I also believe that she would only take 1 months worth at a time.

Good luck

Thanks Poly...it just seems never ending. It's hard enough that I have anxiety and I am a hypochondria.

I just want the bleeding to stop :-(

Oh no, don't worry about it - I hate the unknown, I spent quite a little while on the phone with my OB nurse today with all sorts of questions. Plus when you don't have answers as to why it took so long to get pregnant and/or why you lost a pregnancy - you start to look for problems/answers anywhere and everywhere.

I was hoping someone else would have chimed in, maybe someone who had the same experience, I am just going by other ppl's experiences. But I've known multiple ppl who've used BC to regulate, even during times of TTC.

My bleeding was heavier and cramping more intense. I know it feels like taking a step back to have the OB put you on BC... But it will really help you in the long run.
Unfortunately, this seems like your best alternative. It's much easier on your body than having a D&C.
I wish you so many good things & understand your pain.

Thank you LH....thank you for the reassurance. I am so terrified. It makes me scared to even try again. Is this bad for me to think that way ?

Girl - I would be worried if you didn't think this way. I don't know what scares me more, not ever having our chance again or being pregnant again. This month my boobs hurt REALLY bad, so I thought hubby "got one past the goalie" and we were pregnant again. OMG the fear that that instills in me is unreal. I can feel panic attacks coming on at the thought of going in for checkups and ultrasounds. I NEVER want to face this again. Then AF started and I was a wreck. Seems there is no right answer. But the fear is completely normal and understandable in my book. My hubby figured that after what we went through that I would be done. He didn't think I'd be willing to try again.

There is a support group on here called Pregnancy after Infertility/Loss - I think it'll be a great next step, when we need it.

I feel scared, too. I also feel 1,001 other emotions, most of which weigh heavier for me than being scared. I think it's comforting that we all grieve for the same reasons, just a little bit differently.

I work as a nurse in L&D and OB. Since my miscarriage, I have been noticing the number of women who have had them. It's pretty common for most women to have at least one miscarriage. The thing I try to remember is that most women that do miscarry tend to only have one. I can just only hope this will happen for all of us, too, since we already had the heart break.
Hugs!!

I too agree that the more ppl I talk to, it's very common for women to have had at least one. I'm not going to diminish the pain that a mother goes through when having one, I just think that when you miscarry your first it doubles the fear, worry, scariness, loneliness. We don't have another child to go home to and wrap our arms around. We don't have anything to fill our minds, except the what ifs. We also don't know what it's like to have a full term pregnancy - we don't know IF our bodies are even capable of it. Was it our fault or just some random unfair fluke.

And I was bawling the other night cuz even if I have one successful pregnancy or 10 successful pregnancies, I will NEVER EVER have the joy that comes with it. I will always have fear and apprehension. I will always worry. My innocence (for this miracle) has been taken away. I know I will bond with the child, but I will fight every minute of it for fear of the worst.

I am so jealous and envious of women who get to have that comfortable easy uncompromised feeling during their pregnancy.

Hello

I understand that you're fed up with the bleeding, but your doctor did confirm that this was now your period, and he is very right that periods can be quite strange and heavy after a miscarriage.

My opinion ( but obviously this is ur choice), but I would choose not to go on the pill. The pill is to regulate ur period cycles, and this is not ur issue, as ur having periods, and if there is tissue that needs to come out, then i would prefer to let nature take it's course and allow it all to come out, rather than delaying it, otherwise the tissue come become infected, leading to more issues/complications.

In ur case the tissue is actually coming out and that's great. It's best that it does come out. Going on the pill is mainly for when u don't get ur periods and it gears up ur body for a period each month. This was my situation when I was 17. I was not having period at all, so the doctor put me on the pill, and my periods then started. When I came off them , my cycles were all over the place for at least 6-7 months.

This would happen to you, if u were on them, as soon as u come off the pill ur cycles are totally messed up for quite a while, so i wouldn't in my opinion choose to go on the pill.

However it's ur choice and do what you feel is right for you :-)

I just wanted to offer u some suport and explain what happened to me.

I wish u every luck and success in ur pregnancy journey.

As i said do what u feel is right for you, this was just my experience.

Rachel

THANK YOU ALL VERY VERY MUCH!!!! I appreciate all your advice. I felt alone. Especially since my mom nor my sister have ever experienced this. THey were being as supportive as can be...but didnt know how to answer my questions.

I went to the Dr last week and my HCG level was at 10 LOL. So slowly but surely going down. The week before it was 17.

I am still kinda crampy...the bleeding has minimized ALOT....I am still spotting from time to time and I am releasing alot of tiny peices of tissue. which I was told was good especially to help the levels go down. I am praying and trying to meditate and try and keep my mind off of this.

I am looking forward to becoming a mom once again. I wont let this experience stop be. I AM scared...but my faith is stronger :-)

I also feel alot of support here. All of you are so sweet and I appreciate taking the time to calm my ass down! HAHA

On a positive note....I was offered a BETTER PAYING JOB and I start on APril 1st! YAY!!!!