Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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sam23 06/21/2008

I know that thousands of women probably get pregnant everyday,and that the only reason I really seem to notice it now is b/c of my loses. However, I seriously feel like there is baby overload right now. I was searching the web and came across this article about pregnant celebs and seriously there has to be like 15 celebs pregnant right now. On top of that I have 6 ( thats right..SIX )pregnant people in my life right now. I keep thinking man was there something in the water over the winter. Dont get me wrong I'm completely happy for pregnant people, but I just keep feeling like this is the "year of the pregnant woman", and I some how missed the boat and will never get pregnant down the line. I dont plan on trying again until after my wedding next year, but with all these pregnant people I feel like maybe by then it will be to late and I will have "missed the boat" when it comes to getting pregnant. Or on the other hand, my biggest fear( besides miscarriage), is that I will get pregnant, but everyone will be "over" pregnancy and babies and no one will care when my time comes. I know I probably sound rediculous right now, but I seriosuly just had a melt down about it. Does anyone else feel like me or have any thoughts?

artist218 06/22/2008

I totally agree! There is this bizzare baby craze and I don't know where it came from. There are pregnant women everywhere. Any corner you turn, and store you walk into, any line you wait in, there is a happily pregnant woman rubbing her belly and I just want to cry. And even worse, you can't even pass by a magazine because celebs are getting pregnant from left to right. Its so depressing. How can we ever get over this if it's slapping us in the face everyday. Even high school girls that dont even want children are getting pregnant now more than ever.

I know how hard it is and don't feel silly please. All of us are experiencing this and there's nothing harder than seeing people have something that we are grieving the loss of. So don't judge yourself for feeling like insecure about your future or getting pregnant again. I feel the same.

sam23 06/22/2008

Thanks for your reply. Its nice to know someone else feels like me.

deleted_user 06/22/2008

Not that I don't understand how you feel, I want another baby and it is hard to see others who don't care of thier babies or like artist said, high school girls having babies just so they all can have them together. makes me sick. when so many women want are having hard times.
I wouldn't stress about everyone else having babies and you not being apart of the big buzz of babies, when the time comes for you it will be special because it is your child. Plus thier babies will be older and when you baby comes it will be the new cute one. :)
good luck with your wedding and baby will come.

deleted_user 06/22/2008

I completely understand how you feel, there are days I feel like babies are around every corner! And while I feel happy about these happy families and pregnant ladies I also feel quite... mad at them? not really angry but just frustrated and hurt. And if I see someone shouting at their babies I really feel like asking them if they know how blessed they are. Of course I dont because I realize that I would look like some weird crazy lady and they are under enough pressure without me chipping in my 1 cents worth.
No matter when you have you have your baby whether celeb babies are in the news or not you can rest assured your babys safe arrival will be like the center of the universe for all of your friends and family, and they will delight in celebrating the joy with you and your husband. Good luck with the wedding and relax, you are just as fine as can be, and completely normal!

deleted_user 06/23/2008

I work retail, and over the weekend I saw/waited on SO many pregnant women, and kept thinking, "I should be 6 months along now". Then, I see tiny babies, and all I want to do is pick them up and hold them. My husband says not to think this, but sorry, it's ALL that is going on in my head when I see a pregnant women. It's hard, and my clock is not chiming, but clanging loudly in my ear as I approach 40 in a few months. I just want a baby, and now my 3 yr old daughter keeps asking for "another baby in mommy's tummy". Bittersweet sadness.

deleted_user 06/30/2008

I feel exactly the same way. I work in a small office and 1 coworker just had his first baby, and another one just had her first grandbaby.. both over memorial day weekend. I found out I was pregnant 4/28 with my first baby the same day as one of my other co-workers. I had a missed miscarriage on 6/9 at 11 weeks. She's now starting to show and wore new maternity clothes to work last week. After the past few weeks I decided to start taking the pill again and for us not to try again until after the new year.. but every day I feel different about it and something keeps telling me we need to try again sooner than later. I'm having meltdowns about 4 times a day and it's only been 3 weeks. XO

deleted_user 06/30/2008

After I lost my baby, I felt like pregnant women were stalking me! It was rediculous- they were all over in the paper and news (it was around the time of the jolie-pitt baby and the suri cruize rumors) and I felt like everyone in the world was rubbing my loss in my face.

If it helps, things do get better with time. I started being more comfortable around pregnant people about seven months after, but it has never been quite the same for me. I'm pregnant now and it STILL bothers me to be in a room full of pregnant women if they haven't been through loss like I have because some of them seem so nieve to me and it's rather irritating.

As far as feeling like the baby craze will be over when it's your time- WRONG! People LOVE babies and I know that when it's your time, people will swoon over you and your little one.

Hang in there, it will get better!

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