Your post upset me a little as I'm 19 and have been through the same thing as all you women here. That girl may be 18 but I bet she still loves her child just as much as we love the ones we have lost. Just because I'm young and have had my baby taken away from me doesn't mean I don't feel it any less than anybody else

I understand the way you both feel here,
for the original post,
being self righeous and judgemental of others is at times the only way to make sense of it all.
I just found out I am a mutant with a birth defect and cannot have children, I'm 27 and it is utterly devistating, I will never concieve my own child.
As for being 19 you are being defensive of your age, but I am sure at times if you have not already you will look to another mother of your age or older and think "wow, what a shit parent". The fact the former pupil is 18 was not the issue of the original post, it was a fact that perhaps gives the 18 year old mother some hope, because she is 18 and she is immature, perhaps she will mature in time.
Or maybe she's always gonig to be an immature twirp, kind of like the 4 year old mother of two on my street.
She is the most immature mother I know, and I do cringe at how awful it is that she has these two kids to seperate fathers and treats both fathers like dirt, because that isn't good for her kids.
It's so so so easy for me to be judge jury and hang man,
because I am in hell right now.
And I do not have the child I so very long for to give my husband,
yet all around me are people with kids and I
judge them all without thinking about it.
I'm sure if I had my own kids I'd realise parenthood isn't simple and no one and nothing is perfect.
But for now, being selfrighteous is the only thing I have left to keep me going.

ops the mother on my street is 42,
NOT 4!