Miscarriage Support Group

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I am new to this site and am looking for some guidance from others to get through this rough time. I am 29 years old. I found out I was pregnant in Oct. 2010 and my husband and I couldn't have been happier. 5 weeks into the pregnancy I started bleeding and immediately went to my obgyn. They did a sono and basically said I was miscarrying. I found out later that the reason I had a miscarriage was because I had low progesterone. I went through 1 normal period and then the next month (Jan.) I got pregnant again. My dr. told me to come in for blood work to make sure I was pregnant and to check my progesterone levels. Low and behold my levels were low again so my dr. started me on progesterone treatments. Two weeks later my pregnancy hormones skyrocketed as well as my progesterone levels. My husband and I as well as my ob were ecstatic. The week after I went in for a sono and my ob became concerned because she wasn't seeing the fetus developing like she would have liked. However, she said it may still be early so to come in again in 2 weeks. Unfortunately, we never got to that appt. because this past week I started bleeding. Once I went to my ob on that day she confirmed I was having another miscarriage. Needless to say I have been a basket case, and I can't get out of this rut. My husband is great and he has been very supportive. My ob doesn't want me to do a d & c because she feels I can just clean the tissue out naturally since it was so early in the pregnancy. Once I clean everything out she wants to do tests as to why I have recurrent miscarriages.
I'm just looking for some advice on how to get over this hurdle. If anyone can share some thoughts that would be great.
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i recently went through a miscarriage myself,i was 7 weeks gone,and it very diffcult to understand why and get over it.
all you need is people round you to talk to and know that they are there for you.
i still have my down days now and its been over a month,but as they say,'times a healer' but its hard to hear that after everything you have been through.
my heart goes out 2 u big hugs ****
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I know exactly how you feel! I'm in exactly the same place. 2 miscarriages in 6 months... going for the testing following my next period.

I keep telling myself that i could have handled one, but 2 seems like I'm being tortured. I'm trying to get through in small steps. First is to get myself physically healthy, because i can control that, so I'm on a workout schedule which helps me get out of bed each day, and is slowly taking away the baby bump i was beginning to develop. Next is to schedule the blood work for testing and a scope of my uterus to see if there is an undiagnosed problem. I'm finding setting short term goals to be much easier. i don't need to decide right now if we want to try again, because whatever our decision is I'm not ready yet, and that's okay.

I'm sure you're like me and you want nothing more to have those babies and hold them in your arms. My first due date is coming up next month, and until we get through that, I don't know how I'll be.

Set small goals, and celebrate those small successes. Healing will come, its slow, but I have to believe it will come.

Good luck to you.
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I am also dealing with the emotional roller coaster of experiencing 2 miscarriages within a short period of time. My first miscarriage was November 5, 2010 and I was 6.5 weeks pregnant. I immediately got pregnant again and had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks on Feb 16th, 2011. Dealing with 1 miscarriage is awful, but when you get hit with a second consecutive miscarriage it is absolutley devastating. I have experienced so many emotions over the past 3 weeks. One minute I am fine and the next minute I am angry and crying. I have found out that the only thing that really makes me feel better is trying to stay busy. Going back to work and keeping busy on the weekends has been really good for me because when I am home all I do is think about the pain I have endured over the past few weeks. I can honestly say that as each week passes I am starting to feel better. My sister gave birth to a still born at 27 weeks and she told me only to try to get through the day versus thinking about the months ahead. So like Cole1980 said, set small goals and take it day by day. I have a followup appt with my doctor this week so we are going to discuss what might have caused my miscarriages and discuss testing that we can pursue. I am still waiting for the results of my fetal tissue testing for chromosomal defects following my d&c. I am hoping that this doctor appt will give me the encouragement I need to pursue my dream of being a mother. I definitely need some answers before we start trying again.
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Thank you. It's so nice to have people that are going through the same thing and know exactly how I feel. I know the day will come when I can hold my little baby and all of this heartache won't be here anymore. Until then we all have to get through each day as best as we can.
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