i relate very much to you. i am trying to have a baby between undergradute and graduate school. and i told my mom that i didn't think i could get through school with this bogging me down and she understood that.

and i know people are telling you to wait, but at the end of the day, its YOUR life, not theirs. and if you feel that you and your husband are ready and want this, then go for it! the rest will fall in place and you will work around having that added family member. it might make school a little more challenging at times, but if its what you want to do, then go for it!

i have had to deal with a recent spout of drama where someone said that you shouldn't have kids young because you haven't lived your own life, and it made me so mad! we all have our own goals and aspirations and if yours is to become a mommy, then do that! you can save that other stuff for retirement. having kids early means they'll move out earlier too! so don't let anyone else tell you how you should live your life. they have their own life to live and they shouldn't be trying to sway you.

just remember, if you died tomorrow, have you lived your life the way you wanted to, or the way others wanted you to? because if you let someone else make this choice for you, and you die five years from now and they dont, you would look back and regret letting them tell you what to do, because they are still living their lives and you won't be. so live everyday the way that will make you happy and when you get old and look back you can say 'i might have made a few mistakes, but i wouldn't trade it for the world. i lived every day like it was my last and i did what made me happy'

and i'm saying all of this from the standpoint of these are things i've had to ask myself and do myself. i've felt so free the last year or so because i finally let go of everyone else's opinion. its my life dammit, and if i want to be a mommy at 20 years old, then that's what's gonna happen! lol good luck!

I can relate to you as well! I had a miscarriage very early on before I got pregnant with my daughter. She is now three and I was so excited for her to have a brother or a sister. Before we lost our baby, we told our daughter about the baby we were going to have. She became obsessed and excited and stressed to me how much she wanted a girl baby. After we lost our baby it was difficult to tell her. She talks about her baby sister frequently and even the other night she said. :Mommy I don't want my baby sister in heaven with the angels, I want her back!" It breaks my heart. I am going for my Bachelor's in Dental Hygiene. I need quite a few prerequisites in order to apply for the program. I know my pregnancy was unplanned but I just never realized how much I wanted another baby until I was pregnant! I feel I should wait until I am out of school, but I don't know if I can be that patient. I want another baby so much. I just don't have the support from anyone especially my boyfriend to try again. It would be much easier for me to cope with my loss if I knew we would have a plan to try again. But it is a big unknown right now. My friend lost her baby a month before me and she and her husband are trying for their first baby. I am so excited for her because she deserves a baby. I just want to be able to give my daughter what she wants so much...a baby sister.

I meant to add, that if you feel it in your heart to try again then absolutely go for it! (: You seem to have a very supportive boyfriend and honestly that is the best support you can have(at least my opinion). You are young, but I am too! I am 22! Age is just a number after all...age doesn't define anything. (: You will be a great mother. You just have to live your life for you and make yourself happy. (:

I meant to add, that if you feel it in your heart to try again then absolutely go for it! (: You seem to have a very supportive boyfriend and honestly that is the best support you can have(at least my opinion). You are young, but I am too! I am 22! Age is just a number after all...age doesn't define anything. (: You will be a great mother. You just have to live your life for you and make yourself happy. (:

I don't know where to turn to..i just found out today I had a miscarriage...i had just found out last week that I was pregnant...a surprise to both me & my boyfriend. I'm far too young to have a child...i haven't finished highschool but is it wrong to grieve that loss?
please help...

This is exactly how I feel except the school thing. The difference is my boyfriend has a son that his and his ex gave up for adoption he is 4 so I see pictures of him and wonder what my baby would have looked like. We were surprised but instantly were so excited. My boyfriend is so work motivated and is determined to his life plan for us...but that means no trying for babies for like 4 years..and like you I don't see me not having a little one in that gap. You aren't alone. I feel exactly the same.

How does your hubs feel?

Its never the "perfect" time for a baby as we live in a imperfect world.

Would it be possible for you to try to have a baby now and go to school later.

I tried to go to school but I just wanted to be a mom!

Now that Im a mom, I think maybe I will go back to school someday.

There is NOTHING wrong with having a desire to be a mother.

It is a very natural desire and one that should be respected!

I think if you can properly provide for a child and believe that you are ready and your husband agrees there is no better time than the present!

Miscarriage is heartbreaking, Ive been there 8 times.

I healed the day I held my first babies!

I hope you heal soon as well!

add: I was 18 when I had my first loss. The pain started then and didnt end until I was 24!

I understand how you feel. I just buried my son in July. He was premature. He was alive for 9 days, however in an incubator the whole time. I couldn't even hold him. My mind is consumed about having a baby. My husband and I are still waiting a little while longer to start trying again just so I am physically more ready to carry again as well as a little more mentally ready. I am 23 and so is my husband. I also have had a miscarriage at 13 weeks. It really sucks. It doesn't matter how young you are. All I ever wanted since I was little is to be a mommy. And so far my babies have passed. It is hard not to think about. There is a void in your heart. I think of it as the mommy instinct being there. As soon as I knew I was pregnant my mother instincts kicked in. And they have been there since 2010 when I got pregnant the first time. It hurts. And people are very quick to say your too young and you have plenty of time when the truth is those people saying that HAVE kids. They have no idea what it feels like to want kids and still get nothing. It is a pain that is indescribable. As far as the school thing goes, it would be very difficult, but if you still want to be a mom during that time I say go for it. I to am getting ready to go back to school and I am also going to try and have a baby as well. I know it will be very hard but I am determined to do it. Best of luck to you