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Fallen1991 09/04/2011

So a Facebook page called "I'm X weeks and craving (something sweet) dedicated to this new breast cancer awareness game, and claiming to be the ones who started this posted this as their status earlier today. What follows is a comment that they refused to reply to.

I'm X weeks and craving (something sweet)
"We are not attempting to upset anyone but at the same time we can't possibly please everyone."
Like 12 hours ago

Facebook User
"Did you know that OCTOBER 15th is PREGNANCY & CHILD LOSS AND MISCARRIAGE awareness day? So October ISN'T just about Breast Cancer Awareness. Maybe next year you can find a way to support more than just trying to get on TV and labeling it with Breast Cancer Awareness. Did you know that MANY WOMEN WHO GO THROUGH BREAST CANCER END UP INFERTILE AND MANY TIMES END UP LOSING BABIES?? DID YOU KNOW THAT A PORTION OF BREAST CANCER PATIENTS ARE MALES?? Next time do your RESEARCH. Because NOT BEING INFORMED does NOTHING for BREAST CANCER patients. I know that FIRST HAND. My mom is a breast cancer survivor AND has lost two babies. And while you are passing around your message, you should tell everyone to BE RESPECTFUL TO OTHERS BECAUSE MANY PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN HURT BY YOUR GAME HAVE BEEN HARASSED FOR SAYING THEY WON'T PLAY AND TELLING PEOPLE WHY. HERE ARE SOME LINKS YOU SHOULD LOOK AT. AND BTW- no you can't please everyone. If you could I would have my 3 babies back. So instead of being self-centered, stop trying to make the news and actually have a heart.

http://cgwardphotography.blogspot.com/2011/08/regarding-facebook-breast-cancer.html?spref=fb

http://www.facebook.com/notes/teen-parents-of-angels/speak-out/128224723943031

http://www.facebook.com/notes/teen-parents-of-angels/and-this-is-why-i-make-my-stand/128203183945185"

deleted_user 09/04/2011

I read that post too on their page and noticed they didn't respond. I am so disgusted with their campaign that I created a Facebook page to rally against them. If you would like to join then feel free to like the page and share with others who might want to show their disapproval over it. It is very upsetting to people who have suffered the loss of a child and/or their fertility. I should be having a child this month but I lost the baby along with my fertility.

http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/I-hate-the-Im-X-weeks-and-craving-something-sweet-campaign/264873036865171

deleted_user 09/04/2011

I have noticed this status going around. I've received two such messages to do it and I basically told those that it was too close to home. I haven't figured out what it has to do with breast cancer awareness and find it completely heartless.

I have issues with fertility. It took 2 years after my first loss to get pregnant again and I lost my second pregnancy too. I'm just heartbroken and I feel like this is a kick in the teeth.

Fallen1991 09/06/2011

Omg lol it's Brittney

deleted_user 09/06/2011

i am glad someone had the balls to oppose that.. when one of my friends asked me why i would play my response was - what should i say... i was 38 weeks and now my babies dead!

IDIOTS!!!

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I was scared that I was being too sensitive. Thank G_d I am not the only one who has been hurt by this campaign. I can hardly believe that my friends and family have been posting this. It's been less than a month since my husband and I lost our twins and common sense doesn't tell our loved ones that we may find this in bad taste?!

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I kind of want to repost this as a note on my Facebook page.

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I followed the FB link ValleyGirl posted. I liked the page and found a great status to repost.

deleted_user 09/06/2011

This is too long for a status. UGH! I'll have to figure out a way to shorten it.

deleted_user 09/06/2011

This is what I just posted as my status:

I will not post how many weeks I am or what I am craving in some misguided attempt to raise awareness for breast cancer. Pretending you are pregnant isnt funny or cute nor does it raise awarenesscertainly not to your friend who just suffered a miscarriage or is living with infertility. And with 25% of all pregnancies ending in miscarriage and infertility affecting 1 in 6 couples, I can assure you, someone on your Facebook has or is experiencing one of these things." Repost if you agree.

deleted_user 09/06/2011

Fallen - I just read that blog entry. It's awesome!

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I thought I was the only one bothered by this "campaign". I lost my baby at 13wks less than three weeks ago and cried the first time I saw a friend post it. I've gotten several requests to do it and have simply deleted them. Only a few on my Facebook knew that I was pregnant and lost a baby, but it still hurts none-the-less and I cannot figure out how it helps support breast cancer. There are much better ways to promote breast cancer awareness that are less hurtful and more considerate of others.

Fallen1991 09/06/2011

I have been opposing it since I first found it in my inbox and replied that I was not playing it and why. This note is the conversation we had... I was verbally attacked by a group of women and called immature among other things.... http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=277136168978967

I am also the admin for two facebook pages:

one against this game: http://www.facebook.com/pages/My-Heart-Is-Big-Enough-For-Two/156562577762964

and one for teens affected by child loss: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Teen-Parents-of-Angels/120527238046113

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