this is about the time i would have given birth. i feel you i dont even want kids and i would have terminated it anyway but loosing it like that really got to me.

Hi Ladies,

I know it's a bit late, but for me, on the anniversary of my miscarriage, I found lighting a candle, listening to a special song, and just thinking about my unborn child was very therapeutic. After a few years I began to simply think about it, put my hand on my stomach and just spend a moments remembering.

Sweetuums, like you, I knew I wouldn't have kept it. I was barely 19. I wanted children, but not that early. I would have made the decision to terminate, and it would have hurt me just as much, if not more. My miscarriage was ectopic, so no matter what, I was going to lose it.

On the 1st anniversary of my miscarriage, my grief escalated, too, almost to the point of the original grief. I spent time reading poems about loss from a pregnancy loss support group, I went through the mementos we had. The photos from the hospital, the blanket, the cards people sent us, the poem my husband wrote. I spent time thinking about my LO and the expectations that I had that were lost, too. I allowed myself the time to grieve and let the tears flow. I hope you can find what you need to do in order to process your grief so that you can continue to heal. Hugs.

can I ask how you got the date? I have some many dates I don't know what one feels right. this is still very fresh.

the date I got the positive, the date of my scan, the date after when I started bleeding, the day I had the phone call to tell me what I already knew, or the due date? I don't think I will ever forget any of them but Id like to pin point one