As someone who has been there, I hate to say it but man are just wired wayyy differently from us females. While love is always important, you need to be happy. Can it be possible with him? Of course, but you know your limits. If you want to fight, fight! But that is your call. All I can offer is the promise that it is possible for him to change. I hope this can help you. I know its very difficult, but its the name of the game... : ( I hope everything gets better. Stay in contact...

If you are neglecting yourself then no matter how much you LOVE him you have to change your priorities. If he cannot see that he is making you insane, if you have communicated your frustrations and pain to him and he is still doing things to hurt you then he is not GOOD FOR YOU. :( This may be hard to accept and hear but there will be pain with him and there will probably be pain for a while without him. The bright side is that the pain for a while without him will get better over time because you can be in charge of making changes with your like and your self. With him, you are not in charge of the changing and if he is not going to change then you are stuck. One of my best girlfriends is in a similar position but she is not yet married (only engaged) I am telling her to "get out" but she is afraid of being alone and starting over in terms of moving, relationship, etc. I just think she doesn't like to be alone. :( This is sad and scary. If she actually follows through with this wedding she will be married by 25 and divorced before 30 :'( Why do that? I do not mean to encourage a divorce with anyone or for anyone, but if you have reached a boiling point you need to take a DRASTIC stance for yourself. Give him your ultimatum and stick to it no matter what. If you back down he will not think you to be serious and will continue this behavior that is causing you pain. Be strong lady. YOU ARE #1! ALWAYS!