I can totally relate to how you are feeling, snowglobe & I sympathize. Getting out of your own head is tough. My best advise is do not believe the lies menopause is telling you about being weak & pathetic. Then get out & talk to your doctor about what you can do to get yourself through this mentally & physically. Keep a daily journal of your symptoms & get exercise. Remember this is a phase & it won't last forever.

Thanks, just hate the process of finding the right doctor

Yes, I feel weak and pathetic every day. My confidence is just gone. All of my accomplishments seem like failures compared to so many others. I pray for death almost every day.

It's so hard to get past the physical and mental tiredness, I'll say a prayer for you tonight-maybe just today we can have that burst of energy where we feel productive.

When I read your words "left in my own head", I can relate to that isolation and dislocation from the world. Like you, I'm also a stay at home mama and often indoors too. I feel very lonely.
My daughter gives me meaning and sometimes a reason to keep trudging through each day. Giving to her and being there for her moves my attention away from my mind. Yes, the search for a good doctor; that is, kind, understanding, empathetic and knowledgable is certainly a challenge. Frankly, I've given up on the MD because their scope is limited. I wonder are you in a position geographically and financially to seek out bio-identical hormone therapy? Overall I read excellent responses online from women who are taking it. I'm on a waiting list to see a doctor who works specifically with the bio-identicals.

( personally, I'd stay away from anti-depressants or HRT, and while I do appreciate that some women experience benefits from these pharma-meds, they often bring further complications and confusion, so that one may end up on a medication merry-go-round - which is far from fun)


Things that help: being in nature, walking outdoors is soothing and brings me energy. On those days when I've no energy, the motivation tank is empty and anxiety grips me, I find receiving touch ( hands feet back massage ) releases the tension, reconnects me with others and gets me out of my head and back into my body. If I can just get outdoors, then my moods do shift and that veil can lift. Seek the one thing that lifts you each day. Some days I'm lost looking for the answer too, but I hope you'll take comfort from the love and support here. Just reading your post has given me strength to keep going. thank you for sharing.

Thank you for the suggestions. Raquel. I really need to push mysel to go for a walk. I am in an area that could provide those services but not sure if it would be cost restrictive. I'm generally not the type to take medicines, even for a headache. I did try an antidepressant a few years back but it didn't do much and I just quit taking anything. There are so many aspects to this whole thing on top of the menopause, but I feel like I could deal with the rest of the complications if I could manage my fatigue. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I'll try my walk tomorrow. I hope you and your girl have a great day tomorrow...

Thanks so much Snowglobe. I barely slept last night so when I read your message now, it gave me a lift. Today I cancelled going out with my husband and daughter. Just flattened exhausted. We usually visit family and friends together every Sunday,, but stayed home. instead. And glad I did. Loved having the time alone. I didn't get out for a walk, but i found cleaning the house very therapeutic. I'm just taking each day as it comes. Our two cats and the couch have become my best friends! I watched the cats stretching themselves on the floor today and so I copied them, got up and did a few gentle movements too. Daft as that might sound, those few simple stretches lifted my mood. Well, just go with each day. Thanks for your kind words Snowglobe.

I do not feel the overwhelming exhaustion mine just comes in phases, what I do feel is that disasociaton - like I am not the same and there is some self doubt in what I have done and am doing in my life. It is easier to disconnect myself and want to pull away from people - it can take a lot of concentration to stay in the conversation sometimes - but I keep reminding myself that I am a daughter of a loving God and I have gifts and talents that I can share to help other people and those people can help me to.
I am not a walker but stretching like a cat - YOGA - That is something that may help us find balance and center ourselves on the simple thought of a stretch or breathing - that is something that may really help. Thanks Raquel for the thought on Yoga.

Hi to all who posted here. I initially had the fatigue and lack of motivation. This has gotten a great deal better with the proper supplements. It may not work for everyone but a good combination for me has been maca, ashwagandha and st johns wort and flax hull lignans. I buy each separately and take them morning and evening. They work best together but you may find one of them that works well by itself. I have found that these are very gentle herbs. Just be careful with st johns wort as it reacts with lots of other medications. Also, take it slowly with maca until you find a suitable dosage for yourself. I find that most days I only need one to one and 1/2 of these. The flax hull lignans will help with the lower estrogen which causes so many of our symptoms. If you only take this - it is a great start!