Menopause Support Group
Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.
Brand new here and really need help dealing with my emotions, my anger my lack of control. I am 48 and definitely perimenopausal I have read quite a few posts and see I am not alone. Though I sure feel alone right now. My emotions are really swinging major time. I am just thankful to GOD that I have HIM to get me through this.
Added challenge to all this I recently married for the first time but then had to leave my husband in Jamaica. Yes he is from there and lives there. It is going to be over a year till he comes to be with me in Canada. But this is not what the subject is about. I did warn him about this menopausal stuff many times before getting married. But my mood swings have sure suddenly got worst lately.
What I need help with is he has no understanding of what I am going through and no matter what I say or do or ask he keeps telling me to stop telling him what do to. So here I am a new bride, perimenopausal, long distance relationship, living with a friend who has depression issues and 2 children. And all I want is to be with my husband but due to work can not do so for at least another month or so. I keep losing it with him but the fustrating part is he is losing it with me first then I keep trying to explain things to him and then he keeps being negative and pushing to the point I lose it. All I want and have asked him to do is tell me how much he loves me and being encouraging but then instead he tells me how stressed he is over this and how it is affecting his work.
What do I do? How can I get him to understand over the phone. I have way too often of late hung up on him or have now taken to throwing the phone across the room. The phone is killing me. But would this improve any if I was there. I know the sunshine sure would help.
This is affecting my work as well. I keep having to take time off because I drive a large city transit bus and if I am not 90% mentally alert I can not drive. Right now I am flagged for such poor attendance. The only thing working in my favour is now at least I offically have a medical reason and my doctor can now confirm all my time off for say at least the last year is related.
Do I need to take longer time off and find a way to control this? Do I also take the time off so I can go down to Jamaica and spend more time with my husband. I can't lose my good paying job or I will not be able to get my husband into Canada. Must have good steady employment. I can try and request at least not being behind the wheel of a large moving vehicle where I am at risk of hurting people.
Thanks for listening.
Added challenge to all this I recently married for the first time but then had to leave my husband in Jamaica. Yes he is from there and lives there. It is going to be over a year till he comes to be with me in Canada. But this is not what the subject is about. I did warn him about this menopausal stuff many times before getting married. But my mood swings have sure suddenly got worst lately.
What I need help with is he has no understanding of what I am going through and no matter what I say or do or ask he keeps telling me to stop telling him what do to. So here I am a new bride, perimenopausal, long distance relationship, living with a friend who has depression issues and 2 children. And all I want is to be with my husband but due to work can not do so for at least another month or so. I keep losing it with him but the fustrating part is he is losing it with me first then I keep trying to explain things to him and then he keeps being negative and pushing to the point I lose it. All I want and have asked him to do is tell me how much he loves me and being encouraging but then instead he tells me how stressed he is over this and how it is affecting his work.
What do I do? How can I get him to understand over the phone. I have way too often of late hung up on him or have now taken to throwing the phone across the room. The phone is killing me. But would this improve any if I was there. I know the sunshine sure would help.
This is affecting my work as well. I keep having to take time off because I drive a large city transit bus and if I am not 90% mentally alert I can not drive. Right now I am flagged for such poor attendance. The only thing working in my favour is now at least I offically have a medical reason and my doctor can now confirm all my time off for say at least the last year is related.
Do I need to take longer time off and find a way to control this? Do I also take the time off so I can go down to Jamaica and spend more time with my husband. I can't lose my good paying job or I will not be able to get my husband into Canada. Must have good steady employment. I can try and request at least not being behind the wheel of a large moving vehicle where I am at risk of hurting people.
Thanks for listening.
And NO my husband does not have internet and difficult for him to get. Though I am checking into it and hopefully going to buy him a tablet or such. But research I don't think he will do. He does not like reading much.
Just glad to have this site.
I can only say that we are all here for you, and please keep us posted as to what happens.
If your husband was undergoing something in his life as menopause, wouldn't you like to know what's going on so you can help him get through it? Conversely, he needs to know that you are not going through PMS but something else much more. You need his help and love and support and he needs to be informed about what you're going through so he can give you his love and support.