Have you been to your gynecologist?

Oh yes. She put me on Prempo. Stiil nothing. We did ultasound too. She says it is just stress. See psychoatrist.I did now on zoloft. Worse psrt are the migraine headaches. I have it all.Started about three years ago. I am so not used to feeling all of this.. It is really taking toll on me. And to top it off just had to put mom in nursing home. She seems to be adjusting well. I am the one having problem with it. I am so used to taking csre of her
Hard to let go allitle.

I'm not sure if you are open to trying a natural route but I too have experienced numerous life stresses on top of all the physical changes that come along at 49, anxiety and feeling an overwhelming gloom hanging over me is a new one. For me Ashwaghanda (an herbal supplement) has done wonders with lessening the physical symptoms of anxiety/stress and helps me to feel more calm and grounded during the day (with no side effects). I've also been regularly using essential oils that have been a life saver. I found Clary Sage and Ylang Ylang to be my go to! Just inhaling the Ylang Ylang for a few minutes completely reduces my anxiety and takes away the doom and gloom feeling I get (which is 99.9 % of the time unwarranted). One of my favorite treatments is to run a bath, add a cup of organic espon salts, 10 Drops of Clary Sage, 10 Drops of Ylang Ylang and 10 Drops of Lavedar (mix the oils with Tbsp of coconut, joabola, or grape seed oil in a little glass dish and place the dish of oils in the bath water after its full). When you get in swirl the oils around and sit back and soak for 15 min or longer if you'd like. This bath is my go to for most PMS symptoms! It calms both my mind and body. Essential oils are for the most part are very safe and powerfully effective but I'd advise to do a little reasearch or talk with your MD or a certified natural homeopathic specialist before using. Some oils are hormone balancing (Clary Sage, etc.) and if you have an estrogen dominant illness or cancer they can be harmful to your health so being informed about the properties of the oils you are using is very important. That being said this past year has been an explosion of new physical and emotional changes and if it weren't for the natural supplements I take and the oils I don't know how I would manage day to day. I can empathize with how you are feeling. Good luck!

I have been looking into more natural approach. I will try essential oils. I actually just bought pepermint oil to help relieve headaches. Willing to try anything.. Thank you advise. I will let you know if it works.

I am 53 also.. I am having such a hard time with this as well, along with the empty nest thing, and on top of that moving to a new place in a new state. I can't stop crying either. I was hoping to find some support here from others who are going through similar stuff. I have no answers yet, but the natural remedies seem like a good start.

I just can not seem to function. I feel nauseous,tired,cannot handle any stress at all. I know alot is from having to put mom in nursing home. She seems to be doing well. Her mind is there but body is failing. It has been very hard on me. I am the only child and she has lived with me my entire life. I never married and have no children. Long story short She has drained me and now I cannot care for her so she has others waiting on her hand and foot (for now). But I still feel guilty and it isvery hard to take care of me.It hurts that she has no feeling at all for what I am going through.She just says are you taking your medicine?as if she even knows what I take. I just hope things get better soon. It is. Good to know that others are having same menopause symptoms. I go to new gyn next I hope for new approach. Best of luck to everyone
I just try to keep taking deep breaths and hang on.

So sorry about your Mom. It sounds like living alone after all these years with your Mom is affecting you terribly.
It does help to know we are not alone in this. I usually feel a little better in the evenings, just to wake up horrible again every day.
Are you having anxiety as well? My anxiety is very bad, and I don't know how to get it to stop. Deep breathing helps a little.
Maybe if we just keep talking about our feelings, and trying to help each other through, we can get to the end.
I think menopause in itself can be quite challenging, then to add life changes on top of it makes it even worse.
Hope everyone is doing well.

I agree the night is better. As soon as I open my eyes in the morning the anxiety hits. It takes hours to start functioning. Dr. Put me on low dose of xanax so I take in the morning and then at night to help me sleep. I do not get many hours though. My nerves are always on end. It does not take much to get me 9upset any I was NEVER that way before. The last year symptoms are getting worse. I have appt with new gyn I really hope she listens to me
I think that is the worst about all of this no-one seems to take me seriously. Very frustrating. I know how I feel and not exaggerating Most just. look at me and pretty much say just go with it. I am trying. Isend my best thoughts to all of you.....

How often will you be able to see your Mom?
I hope the new gyn listens to you, and can help.
I totally understand about how most people want to tell you to just get over it. People who have never went through it, or experienced anxiety do not know that it's something we can't just turn off. It does get very frusterating at times.
I travel with my husband for work, so I hardly every get any socialization. My husband is not a talker, not not much communication there either.
I hope you are having a good day.

I forgot to mention that my Dr won't give me Xanax. She gave me ambien for sleep which does help some, but usually just a few hours. It does nothing for my anxiety. I do have some clonazepam which was written to me by a fill in Dr when mine was on vacation. It helps but I am in short supply, and my Dr won't refill. My Sister takes Xanax for sleep. She says it works great.
Take Care..

My mother is living very close. I can see her often She can even come to my home for 4hrs at time. She came home yesterday. It went pretty well. I did her hair which made her feel good. It a very difficult situation because she has the best of both worlds. She likes being at the home becsuse.she has no stressors. I go there at leadt twice a week. She left my home because she felt I could no longer do everything for her. We tried in home care and she did not get along with any of them. We tried at least 6 agencies. About xanax I like the medication. Dr. Is ok prescribing it right now but I do not know for how long. Itried klonopin but made me to sleepy. I was on ambien a few years ago but dr all of sudden said it was not good rx. Tried. Trazadone not helpful. Iam just so tired of trying new meds. I just wish I could relax inside. I am glad I found this outlet to express feelings. Thank for responding to my messages. Take care.Let me know if you find that miracle

I've been having a bad morning, but I had to get up and get going, so hopefully this day will turn around.
It's good that you are able to see your Mother often, and actually bring her home. I don't really know what it's like to be close to a Mother. Mine was always sick which is why I was raised by an Aunt. Sometimes I think it would be so nice if I could just call my Mom for advice. She is still alive, and I can call her, but I have to watch what I say as to not throw her in an episode.
Have you tried therapy at all? I took a bit of time off from work when I first started feeling bad. I saw 2 different therapists, but didn't seem to click with either one. Now I'm doing online therapy which is much cheaper. I feel like it has helped some. She has me working on acceptance. Which is something I feel I do need help with. Accepting change is very hard, it makes it harder when we fight it.
i sure will let you know if I find that miracle. I know I'm my heart and soul that life can be great again. I just can't get my mind wrapped around that fact.
Hope your day is good.

I wish my mother would take to me about my life and her. She does not like to discuss serious issues. She never did. I am the one who had to handle everthing. She gets defensive when we talk or changes subject. You mentioned change. I have to really try and accept this new one with her living somewhere else. I do see a therapist. Actually I went back to one I used to see years ago. But it does cost alot. They just started a support group at mom's nursing home went tonight. I was ok at least it got me talking.. You have to be able to vent your troubles somewhere. I hope your day got better. Have a peaceful night.

That's to bad that your Mother won't talk with you about issues. I think I would like to try group counseling. I found a place close by where we live, and called on Monday. The meeting was last night, but we had to leave yesterday. They have a meeting every Tue evening, so I am going to try and attend if we can be home on a Tue.
I ended up taking a 1/2 of a clonazepam yesterday because I just could not get it together. I hate when I do that. It makes me feel weak. I'm feeling decent today, so hoping for a good day. The weather is very nice, which helps some with the mood.
Hope today is a good day for you. I'll be on again later if there's anything you want to talk about.

Good morning. It is beautiful outside. I decided to do my yard work. I felt pretty good when I got up this morning. Now very tired and drained started crying for no reason. I used to be able to spend hours in yard . It seems if I spend more then two hrs doing anything I get overwhelmed. I have appt wth psychiatrist today. Going to discuss the Zoloft 25mg. I just started this rx about month ago. Not sure if like it .They are having a barbecue at nursing home today
I have not heard from mom this morning I think she is going to it. I have to back away alittle as long as she is taken care of I need to relax alittle. I. Just feel so guilty . They discussed in group last night that she cared for and if there is a problem they will let me know. I think a support group for you is a great idea. I like face to face contact.Take care