Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

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morrj27 03/09/2013

Hi All,

I've been away from the site for awhile. I am 48 and my GYN told me two years ago I was most definitely in perimenopause. I had been feeling ok recently and then this crushing fatigue hit, along with depression, and a few intense headaches, along with the memory loss, and lack of concentration. I work, go to school, and care for my Mom on the weekends, so the lack of energy and depression has been incredibly hard. I guess I just want to know that this gets better and how everyone deals with it. I upped my Prozac to help with the depression and I take a bunch of vitamins and fish oil and just began the remifemin again.

I never knew it would be this difficult. I would appreciate any advice.

I will keep you all in my prayers.

thinksRAstinks 03/09/2013

sounds like you have a lot on your plate and have every reason to be feeling as you are without throwing menopause into the mix....some world we live in today.
Hope you can cut yourself a break and pat yourself on the back for all you are accomplishing!

morrj27 03/10/2013

Thanks, I appreciate your response. I think if I could cut back on just one thing, it would help, but sometimes life doesn't let you do that.
I know we will all get through this, but it sure it a lot harder than I thought it would be.

Take care of yourself!

deleted_user 03/11/2013

Starting back in Nov I started having some serious problems; intense headaches, incapacitating pelvic pain and bleeding every 2 weeks with spotting inbetween. In Jan. my GP told me I was past peri menopause but not in post, whatever that means. He put me on Prempro (I think) but after reading the possible effects from it I decided not to go that route.
Anyway, my husband has severe cataracts and has had 1 eye surgery on Feb 14. A week later he had a minor heart attack and ended up with 2 stents. I have 3 teenage and young adult boys, 2 of which have mental problems. I am the only driver so I am on the run from sun up to sun down and now have my husbands cardiac therapy to com[plicate my schedule more. I do understand the overwhelming feelings.
I have put my struggles with menopause on hold for now as best I can and have to be there and on it for my husband.
Take care and God Bless.

deleted_user 03/12/2013

are you sleepiing regularly at all? sleeplessness seems to be a commmon thread...I've been taking melatonin and it really helps, I'm not such a raving lunatic if I get decent sleep..I still freeze my husband out of bed, but sometimes I privately think that he deserves it for being a man and getting off so much easier than we do in the reproductive department...

and I ride my motorcycle to and from work, that cheers me up..I live in So. cal..so we're already having spring weather..that helps...

morrj27 03/12/2013

Supergrumper, you really have a full plate. I really hope things settle down for. Do you mind me asking how old you are? This seems to hit everyone at different ages. I feel like I am way too young to be going through this but so many other women are going through it at my age. There have to be better days ahead.

I hope you can find some time for yourself to relax.

Take care all!

deleted_user 03/12/2013

Morrj27,
I am 49. I started having hot flashes 10 years ago. I am glad at least that part is over LOL. I know what work it can be to be a caregiver. My Mom had a major stroke and was left vertually helpless. After a lengthy hospital stay I became her sole caregiver, my Dad had dementia so he really couldn't help. It was a 24/7 job that I did happily for the rest of her time with us. After her death my Dad rapidly desended and I took care of him until he became to combative for me to deal with (he would beat my husband and I was afraid for my children). He too has now passed. Its because of these factors I do not want to take HT. I read the paperwork on it and both of these increase in intsance with HT. I can't do that to my kids if I can help it. I can endure these few years if it means a better time later in life. Does that makes sense?

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