Hi Ladies, I must say I admire the courage that everyone on this site has. We all deal with our emotional, physical and mental symptoms day in day out. I friend gave me this advice a while back. She said she went through a horrible perimenopause. It was so bad she became afraid of everyday things (at one point when this started I became afraid of driving and looking at the clouds). Of course, that is not the person I am. Thanks to God both of those have long disappeared. Anyway, she said that when you accept (does not mean you like what is happening) all these changes your body stops tensing up and fighting these feelings. What happens then is as you relax and let the body just follow these feelings/symptoms (because they are very scary at times but we know they are going to pass, whether it takes a little bit of time or a long time) they then start little by little to become less intense over time. I believe she said acceptance lets the body release certain endorphins in the body that helps with the process. I have done that just tell myself "I've had this feeling before, although I am scared, I am just going let it flow because it will pass". It has worked. Don't get me wrong I am not saying it is easy because it is not. However, over time it does help to just accept it as part of the perimenopause process (I am not saying not to look for other things that will help you through this process also). Have a great day Ladies and also do something nice for yourself every day although you might not feel like it. (I'm writing this but at the moment I am at work waiting for a client and having really bad anxiety but I know it will pass eventually). Hugs to all of you