I am not an expert, but I think that not smoking weed would help you tackle the issues as opposed to avoiding them. Weed is an avoidance mechanism for me. It helps me put all of my issues on the back burner, which is not healthy. I have severe Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, and some think weed helps that, but I'm not so sure. I think it helps me avoid dealing with the effects of it! :)

I sort of agree w/it helping me but, I'm sure they have some other medication that I can use to help me deal rather than run from my issues. Thanks Cyn Day#1

I went to school for psychology, love self help books, had much counseling.

I don't think ANY of those things could help me until I addressed my marijuana addiction / alcoholism.

I used weed daily all day every day to change how I felt, and I couldn't control my alcohol consumption even though I didn't usually want it.

Until I got clean AND got into the 12 step program, I don't think I really gave myself a chance to make healthy changes. To think of the counseling I got while I had that lifestyle was a waste, because I was not willing to change that first thing - putting a substance in my body that totally affected me. And I couldn't live a happy life free from marijuana without the support of others on a similar path using the 12 steps, in my opinion. Something was missing. Now I feel a sense of serenity and purpose and peace I have never known. I have hope that I am changing in a positive direction, and I am watching others in my program do it every day, and I love it.

Thanks loved1. Nice to see you. I did join an online MA group. The MA groups here are a bunch of kids in trouble. I need a sponser I know that is why my sobriety doesn't work. They advised me to get to know the ppl then ask. I think I need one ASAP!

That's good! My first sponsor I met through MA online! She was a life saver. About a year later I met her at a convention, even though I'm from CA and she was from Canada! After that I got someone I met who lived closer to my area and have had the same person for over 4 years.

Great thanks!

Well does weed fix your feeling of abandonment and insecurity? Do you honestly think any drug will?

There is no drug that will help you DEAL with your problems... That comes from a clear conscious mind (which, obviously, stopping weed will do). It's good that you know what your problems are, though. I know it's cliche but that IS the first step.

Your original post is very vague, so it's hard to give you advice or respond to your questions.