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I am desperate to hear all the details of this surgery from the mans point of view as well as the womans.
What was the emotional build up before surgery?
Was the procedure was successful?
What was the recovery time?
How was the scaring?
How was the emotional recovery?
what else can you tell me. This is our next step if we want to have a child that is biological to both my husband and myself. . .
Thank you to anyone who can help answer some questions and give insight.
What was the emotional build up before surgery?
Was the procedure was successful?
What was the recovery time?
How was the scaring?
How was the emotional recovery?
what else can you tell me. This is our next step if we want to have a child that is biological to both my husband and myself. . .
Thank you to anyone who can help answer some questions and give insight.
I know I'm posting a reply a few months late, but maybe I can help answer some of your quesions.
My husband had a TESA done in July 2013. Unfortunately, no sperm were found. Not even one. Emotionally, it was awful. We sat on the couch the entire day after his surgery and just cried. We asked why, was he really that bad of a person that God didn't want him to reproduce? We talked about how beautiful our children would've been. But as hard as it was to face reality, we had a plan B all ready to go. Now, before you wince at our decision, please hear me out. We felt wierd about it too at first, but it makes he most sense to us.
We decided to ask his brother (who is unmarried) to donate sperm to us. We told him he didn't have to, but he wanted to help us, so he agreed. No one would ever know, just us and the doctors. It was originally my idea, and at first I felt so ashamed of thinking it that I never said it to my husband. When I finally did, he was shocked. But then, he thought about it and said it made the most sense. Whowas the closest person to my husband, biologically? His brother. He's made from the same two people. At least if my husband couldn't be a father, this child would still be his blood. I'll be doing a round of IVF later on this month with our donated sperm. Wierd, I know. I'm still trying to process it and come to terms that my husband and I will never had kids together. But this, to us, is the next best thing. It's the closest to him that I'll ever get.
As far as recovery. it was rough for him. He took a week off work. The first 3 or 4 days, he wore ice packs and a jock strap 24 hours a day. Within a couple of weeks, he was 98% back to normal. For about a month, one testicle seemed to droop a little more than the other, but its back to normal.
The scarring is completely gone. He had two incisions, about an inch long each. I can't see a thing now, and he feels great.
It's on our minds constantly, his dagnosis. It's a tough pill to swallow, especially for him. But I think having a backup plan and knowing that the outcome may not be favorable both help. You have to go into it thinking "ths may not end up the way we want". You have to think the worst.
I hope this helps.I wish you an immense amount of good luck.
Please email me if you need to talk shannonoq@yahoo.com
Sending love